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Midlife Career Change Reasons

The Top Career Change Triggers

In our coaching we have found that people want to make a midlife career change for very specific reasons. We have made a short list of these initial midlife career change triggers. To help you get started with a successful, safe and secure career change, please view the video below. In the video master midlife career change coach, Unre Visagie takes you through an introduction of the top reasons.

In we offer the foolproof Career Maker System, which helps people during their midlife career change. I have been there myself and so have many others around me. It takes you from the perceived box on limitations right through to a successful place where we typically see a 20 – 30% increase and we see big moves towards doing work people enjoy with confidence. We would like to see this for everybody.

I have the privilege of having lived there for almost 25 years now. Let us take a brief look at what drive these career changes. We have created a list and we ask you to please consider each item on the list below and start on the road to your successful midlife career change. Should you not find your reason for your midlife career change on this list, which is possible, please help us to help you and others by posting a comment about it and we would love to address the reason with a specific answer as soon as practical or possible. We hope that your change process could start with understanding and defining these reasons, what we call triggers that drive the need for a midlife career change. Once we have found these triggers, you can identify and design a solution that best fits your unique situation.

We have been successfully coaching people through midlife career changes for the past 30 years. In our multi-million dollar companies we were privileged to build, then through professional coaching, also pro bono work at universities, schools and in communities. The process is now really foolproof. In Career Maker Systems we see it as a bridge for people to move from triggers of discomfort and perceptions or interpretations, like being behind a glass plate. They then identify and take the right actions and they never stop moving again. We have people that we have coached for over 30 years, and it never stops.

The solution will be your identified choice of the best work, job, company and industry, to build your ideal, enjoyable career where you never have to feel that you have to work very hard a day in your life, yet you add great value with great income. That’s the goal. We have found three types, three main categories of changes:

  1. The ones that are so urgent they burn
  2. The ones that are just getting warm: “I want to change.”
  3. The ones we can see that will get warm in the future, we know change will be good.

Let us start with urgent change. This typically comes from companies that downsize and industries that change; the key thing is the job may disappear very soon. “I better make a plan before it gets too urgent.” The other way of thinking is:” I had enough of this job.”, “My job sucks.” That’s what we often think. I often found that it isn’t the job so much that sucks; it is the work that sucks. I had situations of people coming to me at work, in my companies, that say: “My husband says that if I don’t change this job soon, he is going to kick me out of here.” We went through the detail, they go back home, they tell a different story, the next day they come back and say: “The husband says I will be a fool if I leave this job.” It is merely a change in thinking.

It is often the work or the way we look at the work that sucks, but something sucks, it has to be changed. Let us look at one of the most urgent needs in our 40’s: I really must earn more money right now. It typically comes from the fact that many issues drive that change. However, what we found more often than not, people are responsible for a whole bunch of upcoming people, they are responsible for people seeing their life out, and even somewhat responsible for people in their current generation who’s not doing so well. The responsibilities at 40 and after 40 could be quite daunting. If you simply want to change because you’re not paid enough, it is often a very simple communication problem, and I like that one because it’s the quickest to address.

Another reason: people frustrate me. This can be for many reasons. Often we find that looking at things a bit differently solves this problem, but often it has gone so far that changing company, or at least changing the vision in a company is practical.

People stay in the same circumstances; mostly they just realize they are not happy, the travel bugs them, the workplace bugs them, the industry bugs them, and there are so many possibilities. They just feel they carry a very heavy weight. To get rid of this weight can be done in a number of ways. A change of company may be necessary, but often it is just a change in perception and looking at things differently.

Let us look at people who are really happy in their job, career and industry, they just need more challenges. This is also a very straightforward process, typically achieved in a few months, that usually leads to a 20 – 30% salary increase within 18 months. Making the change and communicating properly with a proper plan.

There is also the natural change; it’s just a restless feeling, I can do better, I can do more. The other one is that the job has become too easy, it’s repetitive, and repetitive is never good for us. We always say repetitive is like a groove, there’s an old adage that says the difference between a groove and a grave is just the depth. It’s like you are not alive anymore and you need to change that, you need to get out of the groove. It is simply a process that follows the same steps as the others.

In each of these cases the solution consists normally of three broad steps. We apply each of them for change, growth, issues etc. It’s to one way or another identify the root causes, prepare a lot of information and facts, think of possible alternative solutions, communicate that with the right people, and you have a fantastic solution. We find that when a man arrives with this clear insight and a clear plan, he is never refused.

Six years ago at North-West University in South Africa they couldn’t find practical work in the industry for students. Today 700 students find their own practical work simply because they know where they are going, they know why they want it, they can say why and what about a company, why and what about an industry and they talk to the right people. What makes it so exciting, about a third of them get jobs at companies that didn’t even have a position, but when they meet this enthusiastic, sorted-out person they create a job for him.

In summary, I would like to say that a career change can be an exciting experience. The Career Maker System makes it so clear and so easy. It’s not always quick, but it’s always clear and always easy. We call it a secure and safe way towards your ideal work, job, career, company and industry. I really hope you will make your choice and I hope that you will identify one of the items on the list below or please communicate with us, challenge us to see whether we can answer you. I hope one of the videos on the list below will encourage you to stay in the process, and complete it.

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Master the skills of dissociation and association career success with Career Maker’s easy three step process.

A daily drama on our roads will help explain.

Imagine you are on your way to work. Can you just for a moment imagine responding with anger and attack to all the irrational and dangerous drivers? Picture the angry faces and hand signs being exchanged?  You arrive at the office in a foul mood and that mood dictates your responses and contaminates the interactions you have with your colleagues, and by lunch time, you are all alone. You get home feeling like the people at work dislike and are avoiding of you.

We often fail at effective communication in everyday life when we respond to others within the context of negative events with the associated emotions and defences instead of dissociating and choosing effective means of interacting.

Dissociation means literally to disconnect, create some distance.

Association means to connect closely.

Association and dissociation in life skills and communication skills

Be a problem solver and you are welcome.

The story from my two sons illustrate the dissociation solution:

Andrew in (grade 1) came home complaining that Albert (in grade 7) and his friends were teasing him without stop!

Please think of a situation where someone got under your skin and dissociate using the same process as Andrew did.

I taught Andrew to put funny clothes, glasses and a funny hat with tingling bells on each of them in his mind’s eye. He then saw and heard them moving about in this funny outfit with funny sounds and imagined them speaking in funny ways, enhancing the image using the five sense of hearing, seeing, smelling, feeling and tasting. He breathed deeply and moved his fingers and toes to further relax and immersing himself in this intense enjoyable image in his minds eye.

He was already laughing about the situation.

We role played the scenario a few times and then he was let loose on his tormentors.

A few days later the older ones came home and complained that Andrew was laughing loudly when teased. They found this very disconcerting and somehow personal! The six year old were now dissociated and could easily laugh whenever he was teased.

The last step was for Andrew to up the ante and to take the game to a next level where he associated with the positive in the jokes and grew friendships lasting to this day!

I use the process all the time myself and in work team. We taught the process in all our companies as part of the new employee induction process.

When you associate or dissociate with people in a situation, remember that people intuitively use language based in their 5 senses. By being aware of the five senses and matching their sensory words with ones of your own e.g. I can see you are…/ I feel like you…/ What I hear you are saying is…, you can establish a deep level of trust and rapport through the communication of your understanding and the confirmation that what they are saying or feeling is being understood correctly.

Use these techniques responsibly – it’s powerful and so are you. So please be nice  and act to expand your options.

We started off by asking:

Can you manoeuvre strategically to facilitate a desired outcome and thus expand your options for interactions in any circumstance?

The answer must be emphatically yes with the MASTERY of the right personal growth tools.


Master these tools in your life using the CAREER MAKER three step action toolbox.

A useful starter exercise:

1) Write a few paragraphs about a recent pleasant experience (E.g. a holiday, party, film, day out etc.) When you’ve finished, go through it underlining words and phrases that have a sensory element (you can do the same with this NLP tip.)

2) Pay attention to the sensory words that people are using. Make notes of the sensory words you hear.

3) In a low-risk situation, listen to the words that others use then match their sensory system by using words from the same system (VAKOG).

To review, the five senses are visual, auditory, kinaesthetic, gustatory and olfactory (VAKOG.) Of these, V, A and K are the ones most often used. Examples of each include the following:

Visual Auditory Kinaesthetic Olfactory Gustatory
  • Look, see
  • Imagine
  • Visualise
  • Focus
  • Brilliant
  • Bright
  • Review
  • Hear
  • Sound
  • Listen
  • Ring
  • Buzz
  • Recall
  • Harmonious
  • Feel
  • Grasp
  • Hold
  • Push
  • Drive
  • Tough
  • Grab
  • Smell
  • Sweet
  • Rotten
  • Fishy
  • Fragrance
  • Funky
  • Scent
  • Taste
  • Bitter
  • Sweet
  • Sharp
  • Salty
  • Bland
  • Tasty


Simple implementations and much more information:

The scaffolding and transformation process we follow and let you implement in the Career Maker Three Step process

The five senses and enhancers as input and a choice how we process it:

Definitions and tools for the eager ones:

The Three step learning process in graphic form.

Unconsciously unaware to subconscious mastery of any skill.

A start to the history behind the short story: