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We’re looking at careerdevelopmentplan.net’s foolproof Career Maker System and specifically at ‘I must earn more money right now’. We believe that if people move from the boxes they perceive to be real and instead towards a different space everything becomes better and they will continuously earn more. Our more senior people increase their salaries by 20 to 30 plus percent a year by approaching the same work a little bit differently, by treating their environment differently.

How do they do it? How do they get to earn more is the question there. We have experience of over 40 years from building teams, then businesses, then doing professional coaching in a wide area, including students at universities and schools, the last being mostly pro bono. The processes are very similar. When people understand how to go implement it and they feel safe and secure they find it becomes very exciting. The foolproof Career Maker System is secure, safe and certain. We hope you find it the same.

Let’s look at moving from the boxes to great spaces and earning more right now. We all work and invest to everyone’s mutual benefit. You cannot lose if you follow this approach. We usually start with the words ‘they’, ‘them’, ‘always’ and ‘again’, feeling that control is external, when in reality the external view always lead to frustration because the people out there do not worry so much about you. They tend to worry about themselves and the things they are paid to worry about.

When people communicate clearly what they already do, they clearly understand what their value is, they deliver more value and they communicate that value, they get paid for what they do, because people know what they do. People can’t pay you if you don’t know, and most often people don’t know. Most people expect that somebody must notice how hard I work. People don’t really pay you for hard work, they pay you for effective work; they pay you for value. We’ll have more stories on that as we go forward. Once you’ve gained insight, you’ve prepared it and you’ve communicated it to the right influencing people, you cannot but lift your salary by 30%. At least you will pave the road towards a 30% increase. Let us look at the simple three steps to earn more right now:

  1. Know what you are currently doing, and know what you want to do more of and want to do less of.
  2. Prepare that message, prepare a story, be clear about it, with the right knowledge, insight and clarity people will come to you. A man with a plan is always welcome.
  3. Thirdly, once you are prepared you will engage and communicate your current work list, your wanted work list, and the list of work you want get rid of and delegate to other deserving people.

Let’s take a look at your role as a cogwheel in the great machinery of industry, production and economic communities. If you drive the whole thing drives, you don’t have to wait for the engine to drive you. What we find is that most people never develop the ability to make their cogwheel fit to the engine, the engine is not going to adapt to us, we can only adapt to the engine. The board and executive is there to see that we do more with less capital, since that would generate a higher capital for shareholders, meaning all of us get more capital at a lower cost to produce even more. That will grow my career, it grows my job, and it grows what I earn.

In the production engine, in the teams I play, the contribution I make, I cannot but grow my salary 20 – 30% a year. if I fit and I’m clear, I’m always wanted, I’m always in demand. Lastly, and the most important, the client comes shopping, what does he buy from us? What do I contribute to what the client buys? If I grow my insight into our clients and their wants, the industry, our investors, our businesses and our competitors, my ability to contribute takes a leap. I also need know what to say no to, which is almost more important than knowing what to say yes to.

We found over the years in our companies, in our coaching and in our pro bono work with students and schools that saying no seem to come very hard to us. If people are confident to what they say yes to, they become very confident what they say no to. Once you know what you really want to do, you get loaded with what you want, and it’s easy to say no to what you don’t want. When the client comes shopping he must find what he wants. My contribution to the team must be clear, our contribution to the executive and the board must be clear so they can get more capital for us and keep the shareholders very happy. If everybody does well I cannot help but do well as well, provided I communicate. That is one more way to move from the perceived boxes to the great spaces.

Let us look at the first one: know what you currently do for whom. What we have found in our companies and recently with some people we coached, people don’t quite understand the value of their contribution, how they as a cogwheel fit in and what they do. Remember that you are much more than your work, we’ll come back to that one. In your work, understand your value. Understand and discuss the value of what you do and what you want with the influencers around you.

What should you do more of? Recently that was my first question to two senior people, Albert and Ken, what is it that they want more of? What is it they want less of? Clarifying that and writing it down, made them go back to their workplace and change the content of their work in less than a few weeks. Once you know and you are confident to communicate because you are prepared, you automatically move up the scale. You know what to say no to, you know what to say yes to.

Let’s move to the next one: prepare. If you look at preparation to communicate, we find it very useful if you use people around you, bounce it of them, and get their support. This can be colleagues, friends, family, and even selected recognized business and industry gurus. They would love it if you approach them with a plan, with respect and you recognize them. You will hear more about that. Identify those who have the insight, who can help you. Practise these communications like you practise for a speech and any situation in real life. Exercise in front of a mirror even, exercise in safe groups around you before you go to the outside world, the influences, the clients, the industry people, and the shareholders.

Elsewhere on the website we talk extensively about the power of stories and how to tell stories and why you tell stories. You’ve got to be clear and comfortable with stories, show your insights, show your research, and show your preparation. Thirdly, engage and communicate your current work list and add to it your wanted work list. Add to it what you don’t want and your plan to delegate. With the wanted list you will have a plan to volunteer. Keep doing what you are currently doing, because if you don’t get your job done you can’t do any of these things.

Ask and share with selected influencers. Use sharing and questioning skills very effectively. Elsewhere on the website we’ve put pages for asking and sharing skills and there’s a vast amount of information. If you’re already good with it ignore it. Many of us need to practice it and more of us have to use models to do it because it takes quite a long time to make it an ingrained habit. It takes a lot of exercise. You know it takes five years to learn golf, ask me, especially if your talent for golf is a bit low like mine. Respect and acknowledge those influencers. I’ve never seen anyone refused if they arrive with a clear plan and respect. They are able to say why they respect the person and why they approach them in absolute humbleness for their advice.

We find that close to 700 students at North-West University, South Africa, get holiday work that they have chosen using this technique. A third of them get jobs that were never advertised. They’ve hired themselves. Elsewhere on the website we will give you a video and the processes to hire yourself at the company of your choice, location of your choice, job of your choice. If we then look at earning more right now, which is our objective here, what stops us are those perceived boxes. The boxes are built out of many perceptions, and unless we move, explore and gather new insights, the box will remain the same.

That brings us to the statement that more of the same equals less because we keep on expending effort and we don’t get the results we want. We must change; we must think differently and get rid of our perceptions, simply through gaining insight, knowledge and some awareness. You must know what you want to do, you must prepare and communicate, and you must engage the influencers and communicate with them. It’s very simple.

Who are you? You are much more than your work skills. You are a family person, a community person, and all kinds of things. But you’re also a person that works. Your store of assets in this case, your natural talents, your experience etc. brings you to the point that you currently do what’s on your to-do list. You can see where your strengths exceed your to-do list and where you need to build some strength. We’ll talk much more about that in another video. Your current list, knowing what you do, preparing and communicating, will be based on your current activities and your current store of assets.

It’s interesting that everything anyone of us can possibly need is available; we’ve proven that over and over, we’ve built 28 companies over time. I like to start companies and then pass them on. We’ve been running incubators for a long time and in those companies we have developed people. That is where all of this comes from, originally based on Hewlett-Packard processes as we knew Bill and Dave in the seventies. It’s all out there for you.

You make a staircase of your own and you climb it yourself. It can be a bit scary to make and climb the staircase; this process is discussed in more detail in another video. Let’s get started. Explore and identify what you contribute right now, re-frame it, refresh it, understand it, and match it to your natural strengths and your required strengths. Prepare with people around you. You will know who among your family, colleagues, and friends will help you. Also identify people you admire, remember how to approach them so they never say no. They will help you prepare, then you are ready to engage the influencers.

If you arrive at the influencers with a clear plan, clear insight, and a wide understanding, they cannot but notice you, notice what you do and compensate you properly because they will start competing for you. In this process you already grow your store, you grow your relationships, you grow your insights and you practise skills that naturally grow. In this process you already get double benefit by growing your store.

When you do this, even if you just want to earn more right now, it’s good to keep in mind that your job, industry and company need to align and you need to place your store where it suits you in the centre. Align yourself in your job, the work you do and the career you want. This will effect that you stay in charge of your own salary increases: how can they not pay you if they know what you contribute as a cogwheel in this great engine we call the economy, business etc.

You will end up with continuous possession of insight, knowing where you are and where you are going, gaining the confidence to communicate it clearly, and this will take you to the great space where your store grows and let you grow. Earn as much as you want, where you want and when you want to.  While your clear purpose in this case is to earn more; we recommend that you keep your work, job, company and industry aligned. It will be like a vision and mission for your career, your objectives, tasks and goals are aligned, because your mission is clear, you can call that your strategy. There is much more of this model in our later detailed videos as we progress.

It’s good to identify what is known and recognize the way it is. The ? typically have no influence in this area. Again, if I can use Ken and Albert, we explained to them that in their businesses there are simple ground rules that are like laws in a country, obey the law while you work to change them. You can’t really spend your energy in this area, it is very negative.  Rather understand the area where you have influence and synergy and it’s known. This is a very good area to play in. There is a third area that’s very exciting, where I would rather spend my time. There are new options, you look forward and there is a future vision, rather than fighting the rules. People so easily get into the trap of fighting the rules; avoid that negative at all cost.

This is the long term future which is unknown and has no immediate influence. We are not looking at that today. Now look at Career Maker; we really believe it’s the foolproof system to let you earn more. Let’s look at the business toolset, simply go to careerdevepmentplan.net, go to the table of contents and look at the entrepreneurial and business processes.

In the personal toolset, I specifically want to look at the one I think that people who want to increase their salaries need to look at most. That is interpersonal skills. You can see that a full list of skills is available to you at very low cost, if any. There’s a full index and different chapters and to make you aware we’ve sent an email soon. We’ll send you a list to help you establish your priorities and which one you should focus on first. We don’t want you to search when we can help you to quickly find exactly what you want. Stay with us and wait for the next email where we hope we’ll take you right through this process to get the increase you want as soon as practically possible. The next email should be in your box in a day. Thank you very much.

People with the 7 habits simply earn more with much less effort.

How do highly successful highly effective people do it?

Successful and effective people DO:

  1. Communicate their plans pro-actively to the people they choose.
  2. Choose actions to arrive at the end goal
  3. Focus on the right activities out of the plan first
  4. Ensure the others win from the interaction, while they get what they require
  5. Understand the other person, client, family first. They listen much better to what you want when they know you heard them.
  6. Ensure you drive the synergies to mutual benefit
  7. Now keep your plan and implementation going and growing.

We need processes that let us overcome our fears of (driven form the past beliefs and values), failure, rejection, getting hurt and looking stupid.

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Purpose of the Career Development Guide
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What is the Walk & Talk process and what does it aim to achieve?
In our journey through life each of us seeks opportunities to take stock of who we are and where we are going.
The Walk & Talk process is a structured and coordinated process intended to lead the individual through a journey of discovery and personal development in the business and career environment.
Not only does this process assist you in the development of your knowledge, skills and self-awareness, but it should enable you to increase your contribution in the playing field called BUSINESS. It strives to grow your insight into what you can do differently as a team member, as an employee and for your customers in the quest to enhance your efficiency, effectiveness and value add.
Fundamentally, a business strives to build a successful company through successful team members with satisfied customers.
From that basic objective, it follows that there are THREE important role players in the business, each with different requirements whose interests need to be met and satisfied.
You, the individual
The company
Your customers
The company’s success will be measured in the final analysis by the financial returns which it delivers to all its stakeholders (including you).
This will depend on the degree of “overlap” of interests (also known as the Economic Value Add) which can be achieved amongst the three role players. The Walk & Talk process focuses on growing the individual in order to extend this overlap for maximum mutual benefit.
While keeping in mind to satisfy the differing needs of our three main role players…
Let the journey begin!

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I Ask

What is the Walk & Talk process and what does it aim to achieve?

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I Answer

In our journey through life each of us seeks opportunities to take stock of who we are and where we are going.

The Walk & Talk process is a structured and coordinated process intended to lead the individual through a journey of discovery and personal development in the business and career environment.

Not only does this process assist you in the development of your knowledge, skills and self-awareness, but it should enable you to increase your contribution in the playing field called BUSINESS. It strives to grow your insight into what you can do differently as a team member, as an employee and for your customers in the quest to enhance your efficiency, effectiveness and value add.

Fundamentally, a business strives to build a successful company through successful team members with satisfied customers.

From that basic objective, it follows that there are THREE important role players in the business, each with different requirements whose interests need to be met and satisfied.

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You, the individual

The company

Your customers

The company’s success will be measured in the final analysis by the financial returns which it delivers to all its stakeholders (including you).

This will depend on the degree of “overlap” of interests (also known as the Economic Value Add) which can be achieved amongst the three role players. The Walk & Talk process focuses on growing the individual in order to extend this overlap for maximum mutual benefit.

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I Advise

While keeping in mind to satisfy the differing needs of our three main role players…

Let the journey begin!

A frame of mind which seeks mutual benefit in all interactions
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What does “Win-Win” really mean and what do I do about
developing a Win-Win mind set?
In his best-seller “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People,” Steven Covey defines Win-Win as a frame of mind which constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions.
Win-Win means that agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial, mutually satisfying.
With a Win-Win solution, all parties feel good about the decision and feel committed to the action plan.
Win-Win sees life as a cooperative, not a competitive arena. Most people tend to think in terms of dichotomies: strong or weak, hardball or softball, win or lose. But that kind of thinking is fundamentally flawed, because it is based on power and position rather than principle.
Win-Win is based on the paradigm that there is plenty for everybody, that one person’s success is not achieved at the expense or exclusion of the success of others.
Win-Win is a belief in the third alternative. It’s not your way or my way; it’s a better way, a higher way.
To grow a Win-Win mind set, you need to focus on the development of three character traits:
Integrity
Integrity means:
Treating everyone by the same set of principles.
Conforming reality to our words – keeping promises
and fulfilling expectations.
Being loyal to those who are not present.
Maturity
Maturity is the balance between courage and consideration. Expressing feelings and convictions with courage balanced with consideration for the feelings and convictions of another person requires maturity, particularly if the issue is very important to both parties.
An Abundance Mentality
An abundance mentality flows from a deep inner sense of personal worth and security. It is a paradigm that states that this is a world of plenty and that there is enough for everybody. It results in the sharing of prestige, of recognition, of profits, of decision making. It opens possibilities, options, alternatives and creativity.

A frame of mind which seeks mutual benefit in all interactions

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I Ask

What does “Win-Win” really mean and what do I do about

developing a Win-Win mind set?

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I Answer

In his best-seller The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Steven Covey defines Win-Win as a frame of mind which constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions.

  • Win-Win means that agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial, mutually satisfying.
  • With a Win-Win solution, all parties feel good about the decision and feel committed to the action plan.
  • Win-Win sees life as a cooperative, not a competitive arena. Most people tend to think in terms of dichotomies: strong or weak, hardball or softball, win or lose. But that kind of thinking is fundamentally flawed, because it is based on power and position rather than principle.
  • Win-Win is based on the paradigm that there is plenty for everybody, that one person’s success is not achieved at the expense or exclusion of the success of others.
  • Win-Win is a belief in the third alternative. It’s not your way or my way; it’s a better way, a higher way.
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I Explain

To grow a Win-Win mind set, you need to focus on the development of three character traits:

1. Integrity

Integrity means:

  • Treating everyone by the same set of principles.
  • Conforming reality to our words – keeping promises and fulfilling expectations.
  • Being loyal to those who are not present.

2. Maturity

Maturity is the balance between courage and consideration. Expressing feelings and convictions with courage balanced with consideration for the feelings and convictions of another person requires maturity, particularly if the issue is very important to both parties.

3. An Abundance Mentality

An abundance mentality flows from a deep inner sense of personal worth and security. It is a paradigm that states that this is a world of plenty and that there is enough for everybody. It results in the sharing of prestige, of recognition, of profits, of decision making. It opens possibilities, options, alternatives and creativity.

Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
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What is the “7 Habits of Highly Effective people”, I often hear people referring to it? Can you tell me what it is all about? Can I apply these habits and concepts in business?
By following the ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective people’, you can enhance your performance in all aspects of life and will definitely contribute to greater success in business.
It is all about creating a Win-Win mind set and way of life. The diagram below will explain the following aspects:
What the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people entail.
The core principles underlying each of the seven habits.
The relationship between the seven habits and the dependency continuum.
Thank you to:
Franklin Covey for
“The 7 Habits of
Highly Effective People”.
First principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
1.
Core principle:
Be pro-active, by applying self-knowledge and self-awareness in order to be able to choose your response.
Second principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
2.
Core principle:
Self-awareness, personal vision and responsibility. Begin with the end in mind, by applying imagination and conscience.
Third principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
3.
Core principle:
Leadership and having a mission.
Put first things first by applying will-power.
Fourth principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
4.
Core principle:
Managing time and priorities around roles and goals. Think Win-Win by adopting an abundance mentality.
Fifth principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
5.
Core principle:
Seeking mutual benefit.Seek first to understand, then to be understood by applying courage balanced by consideration.
Sixth principle of the 7 Habit of Highly Effective people
6.
Core principle:
Empathetic communication. “Sharpen the saw” through continuous improvement of
Self-renewal.
Seventh principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Sffective people
7.
Core principle:
Continuous involvement.
Interdependence – ‘WE’ paradigm:
We can do it.
We can co-operate.
We can combine our talents and abilities and create something greater together.
Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success. As an interdependent person, I have the opportunity to share myself and meaningfully with others, and have access to the vast resources and potential of other human beings.
Independence – ‘I’ paradigm:
I can do it.
I am responsible.
I am self reliant.
I can choose.
Independent people will strive to get what they want through their own efforts.
Dependence – ‘YOU’ paradigm: You take care of me.
You come through for me.
I blame you for the results.
Dependent people need others to get what they want.
How do I go about growing interdependence?
Growing interdependence depends upon building trust in relationships. Think of building trust as making deposits into an Emotional Bank Account.
The more deposits you make, the more reserves you accumulate.
Good awareness
The Emotional Bank Account:
Keeping commitments
Keeping a commitment or a promise is a major deposit, breaking one is a major withdrawal.
Understanding the individual
Really seeking to understand another person is probably one of the most important deposits we can make, and it is the key to every other deposit.
Attending to the little things
The little kindnesses and courtesies are very important. Small discourtesies, a little unkindness, little forms of disrespect make large withdrawals. In relationships, the little things are the big things.
Apologizing sincerely when we make a withdrawal
When we make withdrawals from the emotional bank account, we need to apologize and we need to do it sincerely. Great deposits come in the sincere words:
“I was wrong.”
“That was unkind of me.”
“I showed you no respect.”
“I gave you no dignity, and I’m deeply sorry.”
It takes a great deal of character and strength to apologize quickly out of one’s heart rather than out of pity.
When we truly love others without condition, without strings, we help them feel secure and safe and validated and affirmed in essential worth, identity, and integrity. Their natural growth process is encouraged. We make it easier for them to live the laws of life – co-operation, contribution, self-discipline, integrity and to discover and live true to the highest and best within them.
“If I have a habit of showing discourtesy, disrespect, cutting you off, overreacting, ignoring you, becoming arbitrary, betraying your trust, threatening you, or playing little tin god in your life, my Emotional Bank Account will eventually be overdrawn.
The trust level will become very low. What flexibility do I then have?”

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What are the seven habits of highly effective people, I often hear people referring to it? Can you tell me what it is all about? Can I apply these 7 habits and concepts in business?

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Answer

By following Covey’s 7 habits, you can enhance your performance in all aspects of life and will definitely contribute to greater success in business.

Steven Covey Core Principles

First principle of the 7 habits

Second principle of the seven habits

  • Self-awareness, personal vision and responsibility. Start with the end in mind, by applying your imagination and conscience. (see: goal setting smart)

Third principle of Covey’s habits

Fourth principle of Stephen Covey’s habits

  • Managing time and priorities around roles and goals. Think Win-Win by adopting an abundance mentality. (see: long term career goals) HERE

Fifth principle of the 7 good habits

Sixth principle of the seven habits

Seventh principle of the seven habits of highly effective people

  • Continuous involvement.

It is all about creating a Win-Win situation as a way of life.

The diagram below will explain the following aspects:

  • What the seven habits of highly effective people entail.
  • The core principles underlying each of the seven habits.
  • The relationship between the 7 habits and the dependency relationship.
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Thank you to: Stephen R  Covey for The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

Interdependence – ‘WE’ paradigm

  • We can do it.
  • We can co-operate.
  • We can combine our talents and abilities and create something greater together.

Interdependent people combine their efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success. As an interdependent person, I have the opportunity to share myself meaningfully with others, and have access to the vast resources and potential of other human beings.

Independence – ‘I’ paradigm

  • I can do it.
  • I am responsible.
  • I am self reliant.
  • I can choose.

Independent people will strive to get what they want through their own efforts.

Dependence – ‘YOU’ paradigm

  • You take care of me.
  • You come through for me.
  • I blame you for the results.

Dependent people need others to get what they want.

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Ask

How do I go about growing interdependence?

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Answer

Growing interdependence depends upon building trust in relationships. Think of building trust as making deposits into an Emotional Bank Account (explained below).

The more deposits you make, the more reserves you accumulate.

Good awareness

The Emotional Bank Account

Keeping commitments

Keeping a commitment or a promise is a major deposit, breaking one is a major withdrawal.

Understanding the individual

Really seeking to understand another person is probably one of the most important deposits we can make, and it is the key to every other deposit.

Attending to the little things

The little kindnesses and courtesies are very important. Small discourtesies, a little unkindness, little forms of disrespect make large withdrawals. In relationships, the little things are the big things.

Apologizing sincerely when we make a withdrawal

When we make withdrawals from the emotional bank account, we need to apologize and we need to do it sincerely. Great deposits come from the sincere words:

“I was wrong”

“That was unkind of me”

“I didn’t show you respect”

“I gave you no dignity, and I’m deeply sorry”

It takes a great deal of character and strength to apologize sincerely.

When we truly love others without condition, without strings; we help them feel secure, safe, validated and affirmed in their essential worth, identity and integrity. Their natural growth process is encouraged. We make it easier for them to follow the laws of life: co-operation, contribution, self-discipline and integrity. Love encourages to discover and live true to your highest and best.

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Advise

If I have a habit of showing discourtesy, disrespect, cutting you off, overreacting, ignoring you, becoming arbitrary, betraying your trust, threatening you, or playing little tin god in your life,  my Emotional Bank Account will eventually be overdrawn.

The trust level will become very low. What flexibility do I then have?

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7 habit of highly effective people

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