Frustration

Are you completely bored in your job? Is your job just one huge frustration for you right now? Do you feel you absolutely MUST change jobs or careers as soon as possible? Let master career coach, Unre Visagie show you to use your current job to find a job that will challenge you and make you feel good about going to work again.

Slide 1 (I am bored with or in my job and must change)

Welcome, I hope you enjoy this talk. Dean was bored with his work and he really needed a change. How Dean went about it and what the result of the story was should interest you if you currently have the feeling of being bored in your job. Dean realized that when we all work and invest together we would benefit together. Sometimes there’s a bit of a delay between the work and the benefit, that’s normal. Dean had these perceptions that he was bored with his job, which was the truth; it was his true perception, and his absolute truth. However, he realized that if he looked, approached it differently, and do a few actions, he could move to a tremendous space, where he could have a total change in his job.

What can be done, and what he did, to get rid of this boredom in his job to where he now has a tremendous job in the same company, sometimes you have to change companies, in less than three months. He does expect to get a tremendous increase early next year, because the value of his job changed when he started working together and looking at the future in the way we will propose just now. He was waiting for someone to notice that he was bored and he needed a change, but no one noticed, they were very happy that he was doing a good job. They assumed his boredom was related to other problems.

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Work Frustration

We are often frustrated by stupid politics in the workplace. Do you feel like people are backstabbing you and making up all kinds of stories to hurt your reputation? Are the people you work with frustrating the hell out of you? Let master career coach, Unre Visagie guide you through dealing with this unpleasant situation in this coaching video…

Slide 1 (People around here frustrate me)

Careerdevelopmentplan.net offers the foolproof Career Maker System. Today we specifically talk about how people in my workplace and other places could frustrate me from time to time.  In our businesses over the years, coaching, pro bono work at schools and universities, we have found that sometimes people do grind against each other and frustrate each other. How do you use this frustration to your benefit and influence your career decisions positively?

We believe turning frustration into career growth can be an exciting experience. People making career changes using the Career Maker System often got 30% and more increases within 18 months. They took the energy that’s gone into nurturing the frustration and they turned it around to work for them with less effort and a lot more fun. It creates a secure, safe and certain way to change towards your ideal career, and ensure that you earn what you want and what you deserve in the company, the job, the industry of your choice in midlife or after. We hope you enjoy the process and the details we offer you on the website.

Slide 2 (We all work, invest and benefit together)

People often have the awareness that people have is of they, others, that frustrate me. It creates a feeling that the others must change before I can be ok. In this model we turn it around; we let you use the opportunities where you work with others, even in frustration. So you can communicate what you do what you understand, your value, and you then move towards more valuable work for the company and for you. You will see how you grow, by getting rid of the frustrations and turning it into your benefit.

The solution for turning frustration into benefit: know what you currently do for whom, what you are committed to do, what’s part of your job to do and what you can expand to do, there’s a whole lot of opportunities. Prepare this communication with people around you, people you can trust and with whom you are comfortable. With your prepared communication engage anybody where you can deliver value, and especially those that in the past used to frustrate you in your interactions.

Slide 3 (Why would your employer want you to earn more)

Why would your employer be very keen for you to do this and pay you more? Yes, they do want to pay you more, but only if you do much more. That’s the way we’ve all earned more in our lives. In any business there’s shareholders that wants more returns, and if they get more, we get more capital to play with, it’s very simple. It’s easier for the board and the executive management to manage if we make an input strategically, if we add value, they can do more, and we all grow faster.

You personally grow faster, if you have an interest in the business and the industry, an interest in your teams, an interest to contribute, you will really make a big difference and be a cogwheel in the big engine of business that drives the whole thing. When one is frustrated, you so often slow down the whole machine, and then they are obviously going to pay you less. If you speed up the whole machine they are going to pay you more. How do you do that? Understand your role, understand where you fit, find the best fit for you and always keep the client in mind. At the end of the day, the people we deliver the service to finally must come shopping. They pay for what they buy from us. If we can produce better at a lower cost, it works for management, it works for the shareholders, and it obviously then works for us. It’s very important to understand your role as a cogwheel in the big business so we can all grow. There’s much more on this on the website.

We find that many people just look for a job and in a job you get easily frustrated, whereas if you go to work for the company, you go to produce, you go to add value to clients, stakeholders, everywhere around you, everybody loves you and the frustration often just vanish and you will get that fantastic increase, as I hope you will get. The challenge then is to move from the perceived boxes where they frustrate me, where the company decides etc. It’s like a glass plate, you can see on the other side but you can’t touch it. We want to break that glass plate, to think outside the box and move to the great space, where your earnings grow and you get the job you really want and build the career you really want.

Slide 4 (Know what you currently do for whom)

When we all work, invest and benefit together we don’t need permission to do that. We can simply go and do it following these techniques: know what you currently do for whom. On the website I give you a note to show you the value of what you do, the understanding, the insight, you discuss it with people close to you and you ask what more can I do, what else can I do? What must I delegate, what must I do less of? Jack Welsh from GE said NO is the most profitable word in business. NO is also the most profitable word in your career and your job, provided you know what you do, people around you know what you do, you can easily say no and choose what else to do to grow yourself.

Slide 5 (Prepare to communicate to influencers)

From thinking outside the box to the great space, the second step is to prepare to communicate with the people you want to work with, that you need to work with. People must know what you do so they can pay you properly, they can’t pay you properly if they don’t know, so you must prepare so you can communicate. You can’t go and ask them, you have to go to them with solutions, you must have already tested it and be prepared, have your story prepared. You will see elsewhere on the website there’s much more on stories. Your story must be clear.

Here are some selected notes to get you going. Discuss with selected friends, family and colleagues. Prepare and get more information, do some research; ask people who do a similar job in another company, etc. Join associations; join magazines en ezines etc. In this way you become part of the company and part of the industry. Practice those communications so you are prepared for the third step.

Slide 6 (Engage and communicate your work list)

Now you engage the people that can make a difference around you, people that you can delegate to, people that you can get work from and people that need to know to pay you properly. In this process frustrations just go away because you are a task-driven person, you are clear, and when somebody frustrates you, you can simply ask them: “What are we achieving here?” “Let’s rather go for the results so we can earn more money.” You ask and you share, you need good questioning skills that you can find on the website. Respect and acknowledgement will get you a long way. If you go to people around you, below, next to you or above you, you find something you can say to: “Wow, this is great!” They immediately feel bigger. They will immediately want to be with you and frustrations just disappear.

Slide 7 (FEAR & FAIL & RISK)

Let’s look at moving from where people frustrate you to turning that energy into great production, instead of turning it into a negative situation. We all fear, and fear just stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. Fail stands for First Attempt in Learning. If you look back at your life, you learnt to walk and talk, you learnt to tie your shoes, you learnt to ride a bicycle; anything included some failure and some skin. But we got back on the bicycle, it wasn’t a big deal, but when it gets to people, we are scared what they will think. This process will let you practice so you recognize the false evidence and it goes away, the fear of failure goes away, and you start moving forward. The process, to remind you: know what you do, prepare and engage.

You have a fantastic store of assets, everybody has. People have experiences, expertise, interests, aptitudes and relationships that they never articulate, they never unpack it. Talk to people around you, they can see what you can’t see yourself. During my life when I was building businesses, recruiting people, coaching people and doing pro bono work in schools, I haven’t even found a professor that can do his own list. Talk to others around you, if you experience difficulties, come to the website and ask us questions, we can help you. You will see that the resources, whatever resources you may need, are already out there. Your challenge is to bring those resources inside as you climb up the staircase and make your own staircase. Climbing and making a staircase at the same time could be challenging, that is why we have created this safe process from our experience over the years with our friends and professors.

To start: explore and identify. Prepare, engage, and in the process you grow and clarify your store, and you are clearer on what you say yes and no to. Remember no is the most profitable word ever. In this process you are guided to align the job, company and industry that you want to work in. You want to play in the middle, growing your job and growing your company as part of a growth industry. Secondly, you want to make sure that your job aligns with the work you want to do and the work with the job and both of those helps you grow your career long term. You focus in the middle with your asset list and grow. You end up being completely in charge of your future. You don’t have to ask, because you already know what others think and value. Your career aims are aligned with your work, job, company and industry. This insight and knowledge gives you confidence and it puts you in absolute charge.

Slide 8 (Start with the purpose)

We follow a process that let you clarify your purpose in your career. From purpose you can go to objectives and tasks, and dynamically align with your mission and vision. This is a very dynamic change, industry change, company change, your needs change, especially in midlife when you get impatient quicker, you don’t suffer fools so easily anymore. In that process, the more clarity you have, the more people want to be around you. It’s a lot of fun when there is clarity in communication around you.

Slide 9 (Earn more now thinking discussion)

Another model you will learn about in the process is to clearly understand the company’s rules, every way, strategy, focus, clients, what excites them etc. The rules are known and they can’t be changed easily, obey the rules while you work to change them. This is the space you want to spend more time in, provided you don’t waste time on being frustrated about the rules, because often that causes the frustration. Understand and accept the rules, then you can play in understanding and testing for outcomes: the best outcomes for you, the best outcomes for all the stakeholders as we have mentioned in the business model and especially the best outcome for the client.

When you focus on the client nobody can differ from you, because he’s the client, he comes shopping, he’s the only one that pays. You are also going to move in an area where it’s unknown to you but you have influence, then you go and explore. That is why you get more information, talk to more people. This is what all these models help you grow in inter and intra, with clear aims for the next phase of your career after midlife.  It is so easy to not do this and get stuck in midlife with growing frustrations. Remember we want to turn frustrations into benefits.

Slide 10 (Approach people for input and advice. You gain awareness)

Approach people for input and advice and you will gain awareness. A brief review, how would you do this? Your approach should be: I admire something about you. There’s always something you can find, just look past the very frustrating interface, you will find something nice, even if you just thank him for frustrating you in the extreme. We had cases like that, where Nadine was very angry at some people, she thanked them for the opportunity to grow with them, they then turned around and gave her such valuable stuff that her salary increased over 20% in six months. They pointed out what she does that is valuable that she didn’t even know. Communicating that to the right people resulted in her getting a tremendous increase six months later. Recently, during a time when the company gave no increases, they realized they had to compete for her in the industry and she still got her increase.

Turning frustrations into benefits work, if you want to see Nadine’s story, it is on our sister website: ebio. You can just click on Nadine. You have to have serious questioning skills where you ask what else? What more? So you can explore. Your questions can be specific or your questions can be what do you think? There are closed questions and open questions. It’s all on the website and it’s all easy to use. Who else can you recommend I talk to? It’s amazing who people will introduce you to if you just ask. That is an easy way to turn your frustrations into benefits. Closed questions have to be specific. Exploratory questions consist of what else, who else, where else and so forth. There is much more about that on the website. Some of the processes on the web fit exactly what we have given you here. Look at the model SMARTM: Specific, Measurable, Accountable, Reward and Resource, Timing, Monitor, how do you do this? In any work environment all this can be obtained by giving other people benefit or opting them to help you. The processes are on the website.

Careerdevelopmentplan.net website

Let’s look at Planning and Performance. All of the resources are listed here that help you with goal setting, planning and communicating. It is grouped into an easy source for you to navigate.

Resource website

The resource website has a whole lot more resources. There are career success processes, understanding, business processes, career change, development plan; all of these are applicable to midlife career growth and change. A whole number of them, like the interpersonal skills, can turn frustrations into big benefits.

Slide 11 (Supporting the foolproof Career Maker System)

We have the business tool-set and the personal tool set that you’ve just seen on the website. Watch out for your next Career Maker System email!

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We’re looking at careerdevelopmentplan.net’s foolproof Career Maker System and specifically at ‘I must earn more money right now’. We believe that if people move from the boxes they perceive to be real and instead towards a different space everything becomes better and they will continuously earn more. Our more senior people increase their salaries by 20 to 30 plus percent a year by approaching the same work a little bit differently, by treating their environment differently.

How do they do it? How do they get to earn more is the question there. We have experience of over 40 years from building teams, then businesses, then doing professional coaching in a wide area, including students at universities and schools, the last being mostly pro bono. The processes are very similar. When people understand how to go implement it and they feel safe and secure they find it becomes very exciting. The foolproof Career Maker System is secure, safe and certain. We hope you find it the same.

Let’s look at moving from the boxes to great spaces and earning more right now. We all work and invest to everyone’s mutual benefit. You cannot lose if you follow this approach. We usually start with the words ‘they’, ‘them’, ‘always’ and ‘again’, feeling that control is external, when in reality the external view always lead to frustration because the people out there do not worry so much about you. They tend to worry about themselves and the things they are paid to worry about.

When people communicate clearly what they already do, they clearly understand what their value is, they deliver more value and they communicate that value, they get paid for what they do, because people know what they do. People can’t pay you if you don’t know, and most often people don’t know. Most people expect that somebody must notice how hard I work. People don’t really pay you for hard work, they pay you for effective work; they pay you for value. We’ll have more stories on that as we go forward. Once you’ve gained insight, you’ve prepared it and you’ve communicated it to the right influencing people, you cannot but lift your salary by 30%. At least you will pave the road towards a 30% increase. Let us look at the simple three steps to earn more right now:

  1. Know what you are currently doing, and know what you want to do more of and want to do less of.
  2. Prepare that message, prepare a story, be clear about it, with the right knowledge, insight and clarity people will come to you. A man with a plan is always welcome.
  3. Thirdly, once you are prepared you will engage and communicate your current work list, your wanted work list, and the list of work you want get rid of and delegate to other deserving people.

Let’s take a look at your role as a cogwheel in the great machinery of industry, production and economic communities. If you drive the whole thing drives, you don’t have to wait for the engine to drive you. What we find is that most people never develop the ability to make their cogwheel fit to the engine, the engine is not going to adapt to us, we can only adapt to the engine. The board and executive is there to see that we do more with less capital, since that would generate a higher capital for shareholders, meaning all of us get more capital at a lower cost to produce even more. That will grow my career, it grows my job, and it grows what I earn.

In the production engine, in the teams I play, the contribution I make, I cannot but grow my salary 20 – 30% a year. if I fit and I’m clear, I’m always wanted, I’m always in demand. Lastly, and the most important, the client comes shopping, what does he buy from us? What do I contribute to what the client buys? If I grow my insight into our clients and their wants, the industry, our investors, our businesses and our competitors, my ability to contribute takes a leap. I also need know what to say no to, which is almost more important than knowing what to say yes to.

We found over the years in our companies, in our coaching and in our pro bono work with students and schools that saying no seem to come very hard to us. If people are confident to what they say yes to, they become very confident what they say no to. Once you know what you really want to do, you get loaded with what you want, and it’s easy to say no to what you don’t want. When the client comes shopping he must find what he wants. My contribution to the team must be clear, our contribution to the executive and the board must be clear so they can get more capital for us and keep the shareholders very happy. If everybody does well I cannot help but do well as well, provided I communicate. That is one more way to move from the perceived boxes to the great spaces.

Let us look at the first one: know what you currently do for whom. What we have found in our companies and recently with some people we coached, people don’t quite understand the value of their contribution, how they as a cogwheel fit in and what they do. Remember that you are much more than your work, we’ll come back to that one. In your work, understand your value. Understand and discuss the value of what you do and what you want with the influencers around you.

What should you do more of? Recently that was my first question to two senior people, Albert and Ken, what is it that they want more of? What is it they want less of? Clarifying that and writing it down, made them go back to their workplace and change the content of their work in less than a few weeks. Once you know and you are confident to communicate because you are prepared, you automatically move up the scale. You know what to say no to, you know what to say yes to.

Let’s move to the next one: prepare. If you look at preparation to communicate, we find it very useful if you use people around you, bounce it of them, and get their support. This can be colleagues, friends, family, and even selected recognized business and industry gurus. They would love it if you approach them with a plan, with respect and you recognize them. You will hear more about that. Identify those who have the insight, who can help you. Practise these communications like you practise for a speech and any situation in real life. Exercise in front of a mirror even, exercise in safe groups around you before you go to the outside world, the influences, the clients, the industry people, and the shareholders.

Elsewhere on the website we talk extensively about the power of stories and how to tell stories and why you tell stories. You’ve got to be clear and comfortable with stories, show your insights, show your research, and show your preparation. Thirdly, engage and communicate your current work list and add to it your wanted work list. Add to it what you don’t want and your plan to delegate. With the wanted list you will have a plan to volunteer. Keep doing what you are currently doing, because if you don’t get your job done you can’t do any of these things.

Ask and share with selected influencers. Use sharing and questioning skills very effectively. Elsewhere on the website we’ve put pages for asking and sharing skills and there’s a vast amount of information. If you’re already good with it ignore it. Many of us need to practice it and more of us have to use models to do it because it takes quite a long time to make it an ingrained habit. It takes a lot of exercise. You know it takes five years to learn golf, ask me, especially if your talent for golf is a bit low like mine. Respect and acknowledge those influencers. I’ve never seen anyone refused if they arrive with a clear plan and respect. They are able to say why they respect the person and why they approach them in absolute humbleness for their advice.

We find that close to 700 students at North-West University, South Africa, get holiday work that they have chosen using this technique. A third of them get jobs that were never advertised. They’ve hired themselves. Elsewhere on the website we will give you a video and the processes to hire yourself at the company of your choice, location of your choice, job of your choice. If we then look at earning more right now, which is our objective here, what stops us are those perceived boxes. The boxes are built out of many perceptions, and unless we move, explore and gather new insights, the box will remain the same.

That brings us to the statement that more of the same equals less because we keep on expending effort and we don’t get the results we want. We must change; we must think differently and get rid of our perceptions, simply through gaining insight, knowledge and some awareness. You must know what you want to do, you must prepare and communicate, and you must engage the influencers and communicate with them. It’s very simple.

Who are you? You are much more than your work skills. You are a family person, a community person, and all kinds of things. But you’re also a person that works. Your store of assets in this case, your natural talents, your experience etc. brings you to the point that you currently do what’s on your to-do list. You can see where your strengths exceed your to-do list and where you need to build some strength. We’ll talk much more about that in another video. Your current list, knowing what you do, preparing and communicating, will be based on your current activities and your current store of assets.

It’s interesting that everything anyone of us can possibly need is available; we’ve proven that over and over, we’ve built 28 companies over time. I like to start companies and then pass them on. We’ve been running incubators for a long time and in those companies we have developed people. That is where all of this comes from, originally based on Hewlett-Packard processes as we knew Bill and Dave in the seventies. It’s all out there for you.

You make a staircase of your own and you climb it yourself. It can be a bit scary to make and climb the staircase; this process is discussed in more detail in another video. Let’s get started. Explore and identify what you contribute right now, re-frame it, refresh it, understand it, and match it to your natural strengths and your required strengths. Prepare with people around you. You will know who among your family, colleagues, and friends will help you. Also identify people you admire, remember how to approach them so they never say no. They will help you prepare, then you are ready to engage the influencers.

If you arrive at the influencers with a clear plan, clear insight, and a wide understanding, they cannot but notice you, notice what you do and compensate you properly because they will start competing for you. In this process you already grow your store, you grow your relationships, you grow your insights and you practise skills that naturally grow. In this process you already get double benefit by growing your store.

When you do this, even if you just want to earn more right now, it’s good to keep in mind that your job, industry and company need to align and you need to place your store where it suits you in the centre. Align yourself in your job, the work you do and the career you want. This will effect that you stay in charge of your own salary increases: how can they not pay you if they know what you contribute as a cogwheel in this great engine we call the economy, business etc.

You will end up with continuous possession of insight, knowing where you are and where you are going, gaining the confidence to communicate it clearly, and this will take you to the great space where your store grows and let you grow. Earn as much as you want, where you want and when you want to.  While your clear purpose in this case is to earn more; we recommend that you keep your work, job, company and industry aligned. It will be like a vision and mission for your career, your objectives, tasks and goals are aligned, because your mission is clear, you can call that your strategy. There is much more of this model in our later detailed videos as we progress.

It’s good to identify what is known and recognize the way it is. The ? typically have no influence in this area. Again, if I can use Ken and Albert, we explained to them that in their businesses there are simple ground rules that are like laws in a country, obey the law while you work to change them. You can’t really spend your energy in this area, it is very negative.  Rather understand the area where you have influence and synergy and it’s known. This is a very good area to play in. There is a third area that’s very exciting, where I would rather spend my time. There are new options, you look forward and there is a future vision, rather than fighting the rules. People so easily get into the trap of fighting the rules; avoid that negative at all cost.

This is the long term future which is unknown and has no immediate influence. We are not looking at that today. Now look at Career Maker; we really believe it’s the foolproof system to let you earn more. Let’s look at the business toolset, simply go to careerdevepmentplan.net, go to the table of contents and look at the entrepreneurial and business processes.

In the personal toolset, I specifically want to look at the one I think that people who want to increase their salaries need to look at most. That is interpersonal skills. You can see that a full list of skills is available to you at very low cost, if any. There’s a full index and different chapters and to make you aware we’ve sent an email soon. We’ll send you a list to help you establish your priorities and which one you should focus on first. We don’t want you to search when we can help you to quickly find exactly what you want. Stay with us and wait for the next email where we hope we’ll take you right through this process to get the increase you want as soon as practically possible. The next email should be in your box in a day. Thank you very much.

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Find a career coach with the right relationships to develop your career and expand your career choices. Career Builder identified the essential career builder skills; use them to turn any career challenge into a career growth opportunity.
When experiencing frustration or fear in your career use these emotions as opportunities to fast track your career growth; use them to pro-actively grow your career!
Find a career coach ». Career Builder assisted and is still assisting thousands of people in their career growth. We worked with more than thirty entrepreneurs and coached them through the process of building successful running companies. We are still working with this group of entrepreneurs and their companies as well as a new group of young entrepreneurs. Any successful business takes seven years to build. Career Builder coaching processes are forged in the fire of building these successful businesses and the development of the people running them; these processes are being used in many other companies as well.
We have found a few cornerstone skills to be essential in building a thriving career or business. Career Builder shares these with you before going onto our Find a Career Coach process. We discuss these skills in the form of coaching sessions on the Career Builder Coaching page and in more detail on the Actionable Career Skills page, these skills include:
Delegation
Create your own compelling events
Fear of the unknown
Pathologies
Frustration is just a trigger
Click here for the complete list…
Successful people and companies have a natural way of handling challenging situations. Career Builder observed, applied and understands this natural process.
Career Builder’s Walk and Talk method of career coaching was developed working with the best. Studying at Harvard Business School (Owner/President Management program) we came to understand the application of these processes in companies even better. Some of the Harvard Business School case studies included companies like Hewlett Packard, Volvo, Taco Bell, PepsiCo and many others. In the early seventies we were exposed to and learned from Hewlett Packard’s company processes; later this knowledge were implemented in our own companies.
We developed career coaching contracts and learned which processes worked and which did not. All these experiences with career coaching led us to the current simple set of skills we base our career coaching processes on. You can own and direct these processes to build your career. Work in a group when implementing these processes or take part in the Career Builder community forums; it always works best to implement a process with a group. The group can be directly or indirectly involved; or contact a Career Builder coach.
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The difference between coaching, mentoring and councelling
Learn more about mentorship
Learn more about career councelling
At Career Builder we identified a few simple cornerstone skills we base our career coaching on. Click here for a complete list of these Career builder skills. We share these with you before going onto the Find a Career Coach process:
1. Delegate and grow
What is delegation?
Delegation is when one is able to give the work you do not enjoy doing to another who does enjoy doing that work, but you stay responsible for getting the job done on time. Successful delegation is when another person excels in their careers because they enjoy doing the work you do not enjoy doing or do not have time for. Read more on delegation…
A coaching session on delegation.
An article on delegation written by a Career Builder coach.
Read a case study on delegation:
Barry du Plessis
Leigh Harrison
2. Create your own compelling events / deadlines
Three tips to fast-track your career you can use right now:
Get a career coach by becoming a “sort of” expert in their interests and talk to them about these interests.
Find someone that loves the work you hate, delegate to them while staying responsible for this work.
When frustrated, ask yourself what is causing the frustration? Address this challenge before it explodes.
Successful company builders know that people can and should be stretched. Unre Visagie built many successful companies. He stretches the people that work with him in building these companies; people discover depths within them they never knew they had. The knowledge successful company builders have is to know when to stop expecting more from an individual and allow that specific growth curve to play itself out. The trick is that anyone wanting to grow their careers can apply this same “pressure” to themselves in building their own successful careers. Have a career builder attitude!
Read more on creating your own compelling events and learn from a coaching session on deadlines and compelling events….
3. Fear of the unknown
Making career choices based on what is unknown is always a source of uncertainty for most. We fear that which we do not know. Imagine looking down a very dark tunnel running straight down into the earth. You are expected to jump into this hole, you expect this of yourself or others expect this of you. To you this hole looks like it just goes down forever, a never ending drop into a very deep abyss…
Actually the hole is only two meters deep, but you don’t know that because you only see the black opening! We are too afraid to jump into this hole simply because we know nothing of it.
Read more on Fear of the unknown, you will also find a coaching session others learned from…
3. Find a career coach
Finding a career coach with the right relationships to develop your career and expand your choices is a simple one; it might not be quick though. One will practice engaging different people for the skills and knowledge you require from them, through being of value to them. Over time one becomes practiced and comfortable with the process of engaging experts, using the necessary skills in a natural way. If you have not yet, read through the list of skills Career Builder identified as fundamental career skills. This list matured through years of career and business building.
A good place to start is to have a broad understanding of coaching, mentoring and counseling:
Coaching
Mentoring
Counseling
When working with an expert as a mentor, be aware not to fall in the trap of counseling.
Engaging an expert person for they’re knowledge, resources and skills, there are a few skills one will use:
Emotional awareness
Signal to transform into a positive mindset
Turn all emotional experiences into selected actions
Growing a win-win mindset
Interpersonal skills through actions
Covey’s Seven Habits of highly effective people
Giving and receiving information
Responding to anger signals
Productive listening
Effective questioning
The next step
Get to know the expert’s environment. Following is a list of possible actions to take, add or remove actions that fit your unique situation.
Read about the individual in books, newspaper, magazines and on the internet.
Talk to others about the individual.
What is this person interested in, hobbies, current projects, which topics is of interest to him/her?
Strive to spend time within the circles where he or she spends time.
Through gathering this information, always try to identify places where you will be able to add value to this individual. How would be able to make a positive difference to this individuals life? For example, the expert individual you would like to work with likes to build model aircraft. You are able to acquire such models at a discounted price. You have something of value to offer!
Remember to always be professional in your approach! Build relationship in an open manner, don’t be clandestine about your dealings, you might look like a stalker!
Talk to the expert every chance you get, share with them that you would love to learn from them. Ask how they think you would be able to add value them in exchange for their time. Always have a few suggestions how you would be able to add value.
Ask for advice and practice your “expert acquiring” skills at our community forums.
Find a career coach will grow and mature over the next months. Sign up for our Career Builder Ezine if you would like to stay up to date.
The complete list of Career Builder skills:
Delegation
Deadlines or Compelling events
We fear what we do not know or understand
Pathologies
Frustration is just a trigger
Flexible and adaptive way of handling people
Work in the center, not the individual
Having an “Everybody benefits” attitude
Burnout
Stress
Motivation

Find a career coach in your environment

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Find a career coach with the right relationships to develop your career and expand your career choices. Career Builder identified the essential career builder skills; use them to turn any career challenge into a career growth opportunity.

When experiencing frustration or fear in your career use these emotions as opportunities to fast track your career growth; use them to pro-actively grow your career!

Find a career coach

Career Builder assisted and is still assisting thousands of people in their career growth. We worked with more than thirty entrepreneurs and coached them through the process of building successful running companies. We are still working with this group of entrepreneurs and their companies as well as a new group of young entrepreneurs. Any successful business takes seven years to build.

Career Builder coaching processes are forged in the fire of building these successful businesses and the development of the people running them; these processes are being used in many other companies as well.

We have found a few cornerstone skills to be essential in building a thriving career or business. Career Builder shares these with you before going onto our Find a Career Coach process. We discuss these skills in the form of coaching sessions on the Career Builder Coaching page and in more detail on the Actionable Career Skills page, these skills include:

  1. Delegation
  2. Deadlines or Compelling events
  3. We fear what we do not know or understand
  4. Pathologies
  5. Frustration is just a trigger
  6. Flexible and adaptive way of handling people
  7. Work in the center, not the individual
  8. Having an “Everybody Benefits” attitude
  9. Burnout
  10. Stress
  11. Motivation
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Successful people and companies have a natural way of handling challenging situations. Career Builder observed, applied and understands this natural process.

Career Builder’s Walk and Talk method of career coaching was developed working with the best. Studying at Harvard Business School (Owner/President Management program) we came to understand the application of these processes in companies even better. Some of the Harvard Business School case studies included companies like Hewlett Packard, Volvo, Taco Bell, PepsiCo and many others. In the early seventies we were exposed to and learned from Hewlett Packard company processes; later this knowledge was implemented in our own companies.

We developed career coaching contracts and learned which processes worked and which did not. All these experiences with career coaching led us to the current simple set of skills we base our career coaching processes on. You can own and direct these processes to build your career. Work in a group when implementing these processes or take part in the Career Builder community forums; it always works best to implement a process with a group. The group can be directly or indirectly involved; or contact a Career Builder coach.

1. Delegate and grow

What is delegation?

Delegation is when one is able to give the work you do not enjoy doing to another who does enjoy doing that work, but you stay responsible for getting the job done on time. Successful delegation is when another person excels in their careers because they enjoy doing the work you do not enjoy doing or do not have time for. Read more on delegation

2. Create your own compelling events / deadlines

Three tips to fast-track your career you can use right now:

Successful company builders know that people can and should be stretched. Unre Visagie built many successful companies. He stretches the people that work with him in building these companies; people discover depths within them they never knew existed. The knowledge successful company builders have is to know when to stop expecting more from an individual and allow that specific growth curve to play itself out. The trick is that anyone wanting to grow their careers can apply this same “pressure” to themselves in building their own successful careers. Have a career builder attitude!
Read more on creating your own compelling events and learn from a coaching session on deadlines and compelling events….

3. Fear of the unknown

Making career choices based on what is unknown is always a source of uncertainty for most. We fear that which we do not know. Imagine looking down a very dark tunnel running straight down into the earth. You are expected to jump into this hole, you expect this of yourself or others expect this of you. To you this hole looks like it just goes down forever, a never ending drop into a very deep abyss…
Actually the hole is only two meters deep, but you don’t know that because you only see the black opening! We are too afraid to jump into this hole simply because we know nothing of it.
Read more on Fear of the unknown, you will also find a coaching session others learned from

Find a career coach

Finding a career coach with the right relationships to develop your career and expand your choices is a simple one; it might not be quick though. One will practice engaging different people for the skills and knowledge you require from them, through being of value to them. Over time one becomes practiced and comfortable with the process of engaging experts, using the necessary skills in a natural way. If you have not yet, read through the list of skills Career Builder identified as fundamental career skills. This list matured through years of career and business building.
A good place to start is to have a broad understanding of coaching, mentoring and counseling:

  • Coaching
  • Mentoring
  • Counseling

When working with an expert as a mentor, be aware not to fall in the trap of counseling.

Engaging an expert person for their knowledge, resources and skills, there are a few skills one will use:

The next step

Get to know the expert’s environment. Following is a list of possible actions to take, add or remove actions that fit your unique situation.

  • Read about the individual in books, newspaper, magazines and on the internet.
  • Talk to others about the individual.
  • What is this person interested in: hobbies, current projects, which topics is of interest to him/her?
  • Strive to spend time within the circles where he or she spends time.

Through gathering this information, always try to identify places where you will be able to add value to this individual. How would you be able to make a positive difference to this individual’s life? For example, the expert individual you would like to work with likes to build model aircraft. You are able to acquire such models at a discounted price. You have something of value to offer!

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I Advise

Remember to always be professional in your approach! Build relationship in an open manner, don’t be clandestine about your dealings; you might look like a stalker!

Talk to the expert every chance you get, share with them that you would love to learn from them. Ask how they think you would be able to add value them in exchange for their time. Always have a few suggestions how you would be able to add value.

Ask for advice and practice your “expert acquiring” skills at our community forums.

Explanation of the following skills will follow shortly:

  1. Delegation
  2. Deadlines or Compelling events
  3. We fear what we do not know or understand
  4. Pathologies
  5. Frustration is just a trigger
  6. Flexible and adaptive way of handling people
  7. Work in the center, not the individual
  8. Having an “Everybody Benefits” attitude
  9. Burnout
  10. Stress
  11. Motivation
Goal clarification is a continuous process
Chapter 7 p.3
I become so frustrated! Every time I am about to reach my goal the goal posts are shifted! I try to plot the straightest path to reach my goal but it feels like I am meandering all over the show.
It very seldom happens that we steer directly towards our goals, like an arrow on its way to its target. Remember that if human beings don’t have goals, they will not achieve all they could achieve, but…
The method in which we strive towards our goals is always a meandering path.
The fact that the environment is constantly changing calls for agility in reaching goals.
Upon reaching certain goals we have to move on to realizing new goals to avoid life losing its challenge.
Maxwell’s journey of life illustrates to us the fact that we are engaged in a continuous goal clarification process and that we can expect to find both frustration and joy in meandering towards our goals.
Continuous goal clarification is an integral part of managing your career as well setting your KRA’s.

Goal clarification is a continuous process

Chapter 7 p.3

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I become so frustrated! Every time I am about to reach my goal the goal posts are shifted! I try to plot the straightest path to reach my goal but it feels like I am meandering all over the show.

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It very seldom happens that we steer directly towards our goals, like an arrow on its way to its target. Remember that if human beings don’t have goals, they will not achieve all they could achieve, but…

The method in which we strive towards our goals is always a meandering path.

The fact that the environment is constantly changing calls for agility in reaching goals.

Upon reaching certain goals we have to move on to realizing new goals to avoid life losing its challenge.

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Maxwell’s journey of life illustrates to us the fact that we are engaged in a continuous goal clarification process and that we can expect to find both frustration and joy in meandering towards our goals.

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Continuous goal clarification is an integral part of managing your career as well setting your KRA’s.