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Midlife Career Change Reasons

The Top Career Change Triggers

In our coaching we have found that people want to make a midlife career change for very specific reasons. We have made a short list of these initial midlife career change triggers. To help you get started with a successful, safe and secure career change, please view the video below. In the video master midlife career change coach, Unre Visagie takes you through an introduction of the top reasons.

In careerdevelopmentplan.net we offer the foolproof Career Maker System, which helps people during their midlife career change. I have been there myself and so have many others around me. It takes you from the perceived box on limitations right through to a successful place where we typically see a 20 – 30% increase and we see big moves towards doing work people enjoy with confidence. We would like to see this for everybody.

I have the privilege of having lived there for almost 25 years now. Let us take a brief look at what drive these career changes. We have created a list and we ask you to please consider each item on the list below and start on the road to your successful midlife career change. Should you not find your reason for your midlife career change on this list, which is possible, please help us to help you and others by posting a comment about it and we would love to address the reason with a specific answer as soon as practical or possible. We hope that your change process could start with understanding and defining these reasons, what we call triggers that drive the need for a midlife career change. Once we have found these triggers, you can identify and design a solution that best fits your unique situation.

We have been successfully coaching people through midlife career changes for the past 30 years. In our multi-million dollar companies we were privileged to build, then through professional coaching, also pro bono work at universities, schools and in communities. The process is now really foolproof. In Career Maker Systems we see it as a bridge for people to move from triggers of discomfort and perceptions or interpretations, like being behind a glass plate. They then identify and take the right actions and they never stop moving again. We have people that we have coached for over 30 years, and it never stops.

The solution will be your identified choice of the best work, job, company and industry, to build your ideal, enjoyable career where you never have to feel that you have to work very hard a day in your life, yet you add great value with great income. That’s the goal. We have found three types, three main categories of changes:

  1. The ones that are so urgent they burn
  2. The ones that are just getting warm: “I want to change.”
  3. The ones we can see that will get warm in the future, we know change will be good.

Let us start with urgent change. This typically comes from companies that downsize and industries that change; the key thing is the job may disappear very soon. “I better make a plan before it gets too urgent.” The other way of thinking is:” I had enough of this job.”, “My job sucks.” That’s what we often think. I often found that it isn’t the job so much that sucks; it is the work that sucks. I had situations of people coming to me at work, in my companies, that say: “My husband says that if I don’t change this job soon, he is going to kick me out of here.” We went through the detail, they go back home, they tell a different story, the next day they come back and say: “The husband says I will be a fool if I leave this job.” It is merely a change in thinking.

It is often the work or the way we look at the work that sucks, but something sucks, it has to be changed. Let us look at one of the most urgent needs in our 40’s: I really must earn more money right now. It typically comes from the fact that many issues drive that change. However, what we found more often than not, people are responsible for a whole bunch of upcoming people, they are responsible for people seeing their life out, and even somewhat responsible for people in their current generation who’s not doing so well. The responsibilities at 40 and after 40 could be quite daunting. If you simply want to change because you’re not paid enough, it is often a very simple communication problem, and I like that one because it’s the quickest to address.

Another reason: people frustrate me. This can be for many reasons. Often we find that looking at things a bit differently solves this problem, but often it has gone so far that changing company, or at least changing the vision in a company is practical.

People stay in the same circumstances; mostly they just realize they are not happy, the travel bugs them, the workplace bugs them, the industry bugs them, and there are so many possibilities. They just feel they carry a very heavy weight. To get rid of this weight can be done in a number of ways. A change of company may be necessary, but often it is just a change in perception and looking at things differently.

Let us look at people who are really happy in their job, career and industry, they just need more challenges. This is also a very straightforward process, typically achieved in a few months, that usually leads to a 20 – 30% salary increase within 18 months. Making the change and communicating properly with a proper plan.

There is also the natural change; it’s just a restless feeling, I can do better, I can do more. The other one is that the job has become too easy, it’s repetitive, and repetitive is never good for us. We always say repetitive is like a groove, there’s an old adage that says the difference between a groove and a grave is just the depth. It’s like you are not alive anymore and you need to change that, you need to get out of the groove. It is simply a process that follows the same steps as the others.

In each of these cases the solution consists normally of three broad steps. We apply each of them for change, growth, issues etc. It’s to one way or another identify the root causes, prepare a lot of information and facts, think of possible alternative solutions, communicate that with the right people, and you have a fantastic solution. We find that when a man arrives with this clear insight and a clear plan, he is never refused.

Six years ago at North-West University in South Africa they couldn’t find practical work in the industry for students. Today 700 students find their own practical work simply because they know where they are going, they know why they want it, they can say why and what about a company, why and what about an industry and they talk to the right people. What makes it so exciting, about a third of them get jobs at companies that didn’t even have a position, but when they meet this enthusiastic, sorted-out person they create a job for him.

In summary, I would like to say that a career change can be an exciting experience. The Career Maker System makes it so clear and so easy. It’s not always quick, but it’s always clear and always easy. We call it a secure and safe way towards your ideal work, job, career, company and industry. I really hope you will make your choice and I hope that you will identify one of the items on the list below or please communicate with us, challenge us to see whether we can answer you. I hope one of the videos on the list below will encourage you to stay in the process, and complete it.

We recommend getting acquainted with the Career Development Guide:
The Walk and Talk table of content
Using the Career Development Guide
Preface to the Career Development Guide
The Cast of Characters in the Career Development Guide
The Career Development Guide was developed from the fundamental knowledge that cause a business to succeed or a career to thrive. Career Builder has identified the knowledge the top half percent of successful individuals and businesses apply daily. The Career Development Guide consists of this knowledge and was compiled by career and business experts over a period of ten years.
Lets use communication as an example. One should ask the question, am I able to constructively give and receive feedback? Bridge the feedback gap. Do you sometimes find yourself in a tight spot because the request and the result do not match? By practicing ones listening skills and questioning skills heaps of problems will just vanish! We have compiled the knowledge successful career builders apply daily to turn challenges into opportunities, use the Walk the Talk guide.
Communication skills are only one of the many topics covered in the Career Development Guide. We have published a free version on the web and know you will find the greatest career building value in its pages.
The Career Development Guide was developed over years of learning and gathering the knowledge contained in its pages. The development cost for the Career Builder guide was close to $200 000 and a version is freely available on Career Builder!
When you apply the information contained in its pages, please let us know how we can better this knowledge to address your career challenges more efficiently.

We recommend getting acquainted with the Career Development Guide:

The Walk and Talk table of content

Using the Career Development Guide

Preface to the Career Development Guide

The Cast of Characters in the Career Development Guide

The Career Development Guide was developed from the fundamental knowledge that cause a business to succeed or a career to thrive. Career Builder has identified the knowledge the top half percent of successful individuals and businesses apply daily. The Career Development Guide consists of this knowledge and was compiled by career and business experts over a period of ten years.

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I Explain

Let’s use communication as an example. One should ask the question: am I able to constructively give and receive feedback? Bridge the feedback gap. Do you sometimes find yourself in a tight spot because the request and the result do not match? By practicing one’s listening skills and questioning skills heaps of problems will just vanish! We have compiled the knowledge successful career builders apply daily to turn challenges into opportunities, use the Walk the Talk guide.

Communication skills are only one of the many topics covered in the Career Development Guide. We have published a free version on the web and know you will find the greatest career building value in its pages.

The Career Development Guide was developed over years of learning and gathering the knowledge contained in its pages. The development cost for the Career Builder guide was close to $200 000 and a version is freely available on Career Builder!

When you apply the information contained in its pages, please let us know how we can better this knowledge to address your career challenges more efficiently.

How to give feedback, bridging the feedback gap

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Ask

For some reason I have a feedback gap. Ìt always makes me nervous. When I receive feedback, I often withdraw and go into the poor me – mode. When I give feedback, I’m always afraid that people will take it as criticism. How should I bridge this feedback gap?

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Answer

Feedback is essential for growth. The most important thing about it is that it should always lead to something constructive, only then can it really act as a motivational tool for growth.

Feedback consists not only of getting feedback, but also of giving feedback. The glue that bonds these two dimensions together, is the development of an action plan to deal with the content of the feedback. It is essential that action follows feedback, otherwise no growth will result.

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Ask

When is feedback positive and when is it negative?

Can you give me some guidelines that will enable me to be more effective in giving feedback?

how to give effective feedback to your students

Answer

One can close the feedback gap and enhance feedback by:

  • Focusing on what you say, how you say it and when you say it,
  • Distinguishing between negative and positive feedback, and by
  • Ensuring that your feedback results in a SMART(M) action plan

The SMART(M) action plan and closing the feedback gap

S Specific: You should be able to break your goals into manageable chunks.
M Measurable: How will I know? (See? Hear? Feel?) What is the evidence procedure?
A Achievable: Is this within my control? Do have I the skills, the resources, the authority? Do I give myself permission to act?
R Rewarding: The benefit must be greater than the cost, otherwise you won’t achieve the goal (causes procrastination).
T Timing: When do I start? How long will it take? What are the mileposts so that I can monitor that I am on my way?
M Monitor: We added a last M for monitor. We found that one can have the most amazing plan, but without monitoring and tracking it until completion; the chances for successfully completing this plan is minimal.

Feedback should always result in something constructive and actionable. When you are about to give feedback and are afraid that it might be destructive in a way, rather apply the 24 hour rule.

Sometimes the need to give feedback was caused by something that triggered emotions; these emotions can interfere with giving constructive feedback. If this is the case allow at least 24 hours to pass before giving feedback. The 24 hour rule allows these possibly interfering emotions to play themselves out before giving feedback. This is sometimes difficult to do, but once you have done this a few times the feedback gap will be significantly reduced!

how to give constructive feedback

Constructive Feedback

Developing a SMART(M) action plan

  • What is to be done?
  • Who is to do it?
  • When is to do?
  • How do we monitor?

Close the feedback gap by giving

  • Descriptive feedback
  • Specific feedback
  • Constructive feedback
  • Timeous feedback
Negative feedback Positive feedback
Should always be in private. Praise in public as person and others benefit as well.

Focus on the problem:

  • What was the behavior
  • What was done
  • What’s was said

And not on the person.

Focus on the person:You did a great job!

Put into context – Period of time.

People are then more ready to accept.

Make permanent by using:You “always” produce good results.
You” never” let us down.
Make specific – Resolved Copy (great)
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Advise

Remember that feedback should always be constructive.

Never cause pain, other than as a signal to learn something new or to do something differently.

how to give good feedback

Ask

Receiving feedback is an even worse nightmare! I often feel that everyone else is trying to burst my bubble… What can I do to change this mind set and close this feedback gap I have even more?

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Explain

Always give constructive feedback, be aware and bridge the feedback gap!

There are two different sets of tools that will enable you to deal effectively with the feedback you receive:

  • Using open-ended questions to explore exactly what is expected of you. Read the questioning skills applet.
  • Using NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming) techniques like reframing and dissociation to see yourself inside the picture.

It is natural to feel attacked when one is at the receiving end of critical feedback (poor me); however, reacting in a defensive or attacking manner curtails the feedback, stops the growth process and stretches the feedback gap even more.

A person coming from the personal power model (maturity), who receives unpleasant feedback controls his natural feelings of defensiveness and gets more information by using the following technique:

negative positive feedback

Negative Positive Feedback

  • TELL me more.
    • Use Open-Ended questions: What, when, where, who, how to determine an Action Plan.
  • WHAT is to be done?
    • (Now/Next time/In future)
  • WHO is to do it?
    • (Who is to be responsible? What other resources are needed?)
  • WHEN is it to be done?
    • (When is it to be started? How long will it take?)
  • WHERE is to be done?
    • (What area, location etc.)
  • HOW do we monitor it?
    • (How will I know your plan is working? Who does the checking?)
  • Reframing
    • What else (that would be to my benefit) could this mean – this method is commonly known as Lateral Thinking.
  • Dissociation
    • When feedback is hurtful, I can dissociate from the feelings in order to effectively manage the feedback to find a solution.
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Advise

Deal with feedback in an emotionally intelligent way. While you’re at it why not also use the six thinking hats to enhance communication and understanding.

The first few times you are going to react like you always did. Make a conscious effort to be aware when giving or receiving feedback; focus on what to do, what to say and how to react for all to get maximum benefit from the feedback.

Handling feedback in a mutually beneficial way will eventually come naturally. Use the support of those around you and make them aware of how you are developing certain skills. Others will then learn from you and everybody grows and develops new skills!