7 habits

A quick summary of the seven habits of highly effective people:

Habit 1: Be proactive in doing and planning

Habit 2: Begin with a very clear end in mind

Habit 3: First things first, invest your time wisely

Habit 4: Have a win/win mindset

Habit 5: Understand the other party first, then help them understand you

Habit 6: Find synergy between parties and focus on these overlaps

Habit 7: Sharpen your edge, keep growing and keep it going

For a very detailed and thorough step by step guide to the 7 habits: Habits of successful people

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Always remember it is your choice. It all starts with YOU!

  1. The first three habits is you by yourself communicating and contributing to family, work and friend groups.
  2. The second three guides you to interact with others to their and your gain.
  3. Keep going and keep growing. You will be amazed what you can achieve.

It ends with:  “If it is to be done, it is up to me.”

We used the 7 habits to great effect in companies, work teams, family and friends.

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Seven habits of highly successful people

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The seven habits and short summary of each one of the 7 habits

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The 7 habits and a short summary of each

Habit 1: Be proactive in doing and planning

Make it a habit to know your purpose, objectives and plans, makes it easier to take the right actions. How to overcome the traditional fears that keep us from taking action is answered in the application section below.

  • Choose your actions after careful consideration.

    The important habit is to be pro-active in the first place. Choosing the right action with knowledge and confidence helps you do what you have chosen to do.

    Time is the most valuable commodity in our lives. We were given life and thus time for free.

    The hours we have in a life time are limited and thus our most valuable commodity. Fill those hours with what give you the results you want.

  • Getting and keep things done are a most valuable habit.

    The habit to make lists and sort them into priorities is part of the habits of most successful effective people.

    Organize your lists in logical bundles to make execution easier and more effective.

    Such lists helps you plan, delegate and saying no.

    The book and courses on getting and keeping things done will help tremendously.

  • Consider alternatives in Thesis and anti-thesis

    The habit to think in structured ways includes the process of thesis and anti-thesis to stimulate discovering alternatives. Alternatives are required for planning, communicating and more.

  • You are only responsible for yourself and to others.

    The habit to take and own responsibility only for yourself helps you being responsible to others.

    You are responsible to others. Realize it is a choice.

    Choose, add and manage actions from what is important to you and not urgent

    Being pro-active means avoiding what is urgent to others and not important to you at all. Know the difference and be pro-active in saying NO!

  • Recognize and know what you can influence and not influence

    The habit of pro-activeness means you identify where you have no influence and then let it go. You focus on the useful task almost immediately when you get busy with your next clear urgent important action.

  • Take responsibility for results.

Always take total ownership for results. Where you delegate or work in a team, you assist others, ensure right resources and verify with people who knows more about the subject.

Failing forward happens when you learn from the failure.

Handling failure as a positive part of the learning curve let you take the right action.

The key difference between effective and successful people and the not yet successful is how they handle failures. A positive learning approach let you overcome the fear of failure, which leads to lack of action or procrastination.

Convert the trigger to positive action from blame or pathologies.

Failures make people run away from opportunities and growth. The negative energy from failures is turned positive by taking ownership and creates alternative solutions. Such an approach let you keep going and growing.

Recognise the negative action thieves by looking for pathology words like, they, always, again, not me, etc.

Habit 2: Begin with the clarified and verified wished for end in mind

Gain insights in what the ideal outcomes of any action or project will be.

  • Communicate the desired outcomes clearly. Now all involved people know what to work towards.
  • Explore your options using exploration, groups and admired experts
  • Every action starts in your mind. Choose proactively what you put in your mind.
  • Plan and execute the plan. Do not hesitate to change the plan with new information.
  • Communicate clear objectives, environment, and outcomes with clear measurable end goals.
  • Verify goals the S.M.A.R.T.M. way. Specific, Measurable, Rewards, Timing, Monitor
  • Think of planning a trip, house, game, etc.
  • A clear goal and actions let you say NO to stuff simply keeping you busy.

Habit 3: Put first things first – How you invest your time.

Understand and communicate what is important and urgent to you. Others will then typically buy in and contribute to your stated communicated objectives.

  • Your purpose, alternatives, goals and plans must be clear.
  • Link to the diagram in the Walk and Talk book.

Habit 3 A. Important and urgent:

  • Delegate tasks where you can.
  • Take quick effective action where you cannot say no.
  • Say no where you can.
  • Can someone else do it?

Habit 3 B. Important and not urgent:

Carefully choose the maintenance, creative, fun and new opportunity activities

Habit 3 C. Not Important and Urgent

  • Say NO easily, quickly and with no stress or fears.
  • Delegate effectively and quickly. Monitor the results and progress.
  • Where tasks are unavoidable or will come back, do the task immediately and quickly.
  • Bundle what you take on into effective slots as in Getting and keeping things done book.

Habit 3 D. Not important and not urgent. Simply say NO!

What will happen if you say no? We often have a fear of the great word NO!

Habit 4: Think win/win

The win/win approach means we optimize and maximize the benefits from a any interaction, project or joint venture.

  • Once task, project or team opportunities are maximized and optimized, we divide the benefits to serve the involved parties.
  • Always focus to maximize and optimize results for both parties involved
  • The win/win way you get more and you attract more opportunities and people.
  • Business, projects and careers need not be like a sport game where one wins and the other loses. We can BOTH WIN!
  • Grow the space by using many tools, models and process
  • Segmentation simply means breaking down any task into two levels down.
  • Alternatives means to find more than one way to reach the goals or objectives.
  • Use models like ZOPA, WATNA, BATNA, etc.

Habit 5: Seek always to understand the other parties, then to be understood by them.

Ask the clarification questions that let you ensure you really understand the communication from other parties. Grow your questioning skills with web knowledge, group exercises and experts. Understand and use models and processes for structured questioning.

  • Ask questions. Use the skill of asking good questions as in Interviews, journalists, Lawyers, etc.
  • Seeking for alternative ways to reach a goal or solve problems expands your world.
  • Various strategies will deliver the results. An example is Parent effectiveness and Strategic Selling. or project management
  • Thinking skills diagrams contribute much to win/win solutions.
  • Process mapping and Swim lanes are such tools.

Habit 6: Find synergistic overlaps between parties

Looking for synergies grows the potential results. Trust is grown when we all agree and enforce the rules.

  • Use VENN diagrams to find overlaps and a place for value and requirements of all parties
  • Grow the space for productivity as in the book GO GIVER. Say thank you easily and give freely.
  • Build TRUST in the four elements of trust
  • The future belongs to the synergizes and collaborators. Acquire the skills for the future

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw. Keep growing and keep it going.

Keep on growing skills as required by specific situations. Situational leaning creates the urgency and compelling event to learn, practice and master new tools, models and processes.

  • Keep your life in balance. The balance wheel spokes: Physical, mental, finances, relationships, ethics, aesthetics, etc.
  • Keep the habit forming processes going and hone the habits

Now let us implement the 7 habits of successful people.

  • Successful and effective people’s habits and competencies came out of the studies in Project zero and Vaillant at HBS
  • Acquire the skills, habits and more of successful effective people. They mostly got it at home in families.
  • Use flow diagrams in your daily work and thinking – Swim lanes examples
  • Use VENN diagrams as a habit in thinking and mapping details to grow insights
  • Use the tools we use and please add the tools you use.
  • We are publishing videos to assist you in the implementation processes
  • We share real life stories happening right now to assist you. You can follow the people on their blogs
  • Three simple steps to get almost anything done we call it ABC GO to get you there!

Living the 7 habits in your life, family, career and or businesses

  • Forming habits or master knowledge you repeat the exercise at least five times says Tony Buzan
  • The brain forms neural paths after five repeats
  • Expand what you know and your contribution increases to let you earn more and more.
  • Create check lists for success
  • Start with a purpose, explore, choose your goals, then plan and execute the plan. You are implementing your choices in an effective successful life.
  • New knowledge goes from unconsciously unaware to subconsciously aware three steps get you there – always! Explore, organize, plan and execute = ABC GO
  • Know yourself and your environment

Careers and 7 habits

  • We apply the 7 habits in career growth in our companies.
  • See the 7 habit application section for the Blueprint
  • Maintain the habits by forming interest groups and drive access to people you admire.
  • Simply discuss the habits one at a time in groups
  • Focus on issues and opportunities in your work place right now
  • Use the same tools to get the job of your heart. See the Blueprint under Applications.
  • 7 habits of Stephen Covey in practical Application areas
  • Plans for business and 7 habits
  • Inculcate 7 habits for teenagers in studies to acquire knowledge and legal requirements for the job you want
  • Careers builders know when, where and how to use the available tools in situations.

How to apply the seven habits in your everyday life

  • Stephen Covey 7 habits in Friends
  • Seven habits for building your Web presence
  • Risk management
  • Personal development
  • Thinking skills
  • Emotional Intelligence
  • The right actions create necessary expansion of what we belief and value.

Remember:

  • Grow and expand what you belief and value to ensure success and effectiveness.
  • Values and beliefs often keep us from taking action.
  • Our current values and beliefs drive our decisions.

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Managing time effectively and spending time on the right things
Chapter 4 p.8
I don’t know how they do it! I can never find time to do all I need to do, whereas some of my colleagues, and especially my team leader always seems to find the time to deal with everything even additional matters that crop up…… why are their lives so much more organized than mine?
Quadrant I is both urgent and important, dealing with significant results which require immediate attention – your typical “crises” or “problems”. This quadrant consumes many people. They are crisis managers, problem-minded people and deadline-driven producers. The challenge they face is to progress into the non-important, non-urgent activities of quadrant IV.
Often 90% of their time is spent in quadrant I and most of the remaining 10% in quadrant IV with only negligible attention paid to quadrants II and III.
Some people spend a great deal of time in quadrant III thinking that they are in quadrant I.
They spend most of their time reacting to things that are urgent, assuming that they are also important. Often the urgency of these matters is based on the expectations of others.
Effective people stay out of quadrants III and IV because, urgent or not, they are not important. They also shrink quadrant I down to size by spending more time in quadrant II, which is the heart of effective personal management. Our effectiveness takes a quantum leap when we start doing the things in quadrant II on a regular basis.
Finding time for everything simply means managing time effectively and spending it on the right things. The secret lies in finding the balance between the ‘urgent’ and the ‘important.’
Urgent things have the same effect on us as a phone ringing. Urgent matters are usually visible, they press on us and demand attention. Often they are easy, pleasant and fun to do – but often they are so unimportant. Importance, on the other hand has to do with results.
If something is important, it contributes to your mission, your values, your high priority goals.
We react to urgent matters. Important matters that are not urgent require more initiative, to be more proactive. We must act to seize the opportunity, to make things happen.
How effective you are depends on which quadrant of the ‘Time Management Matrix’ you spend most of your time.
Thank you to: Franklin Covey
For further information read Steven Covey’s “Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”.

Managing time effectively and spending time on the right things

Chapter 4 p.8

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I don’t know how they do it! I can never find time to do all I need to do, whereas some of my colleagues, and especially my team leader always seems to find the time to deal with everything, even additional matters that crop up…… why are their lives so much more organized than mine?

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Quadrant I is both urgent and important, dealing with significant results which require immediate attention: your typical crises or problems. This quadrant consumes many people. They are crisis managers, problem-minded people and deadline-driven producers. The challenge they face is to progress into the non-important, non-urgent activities of quadrant IV.

Often 90% of their time is spent in quadrant I and most of the remaining 10% in quadrant IV with only negligible attention paid to quadrants II and III.

Some people spend a great deal of time in quadrant III thinking that they are in quadrant I.

They spend most of their time reacting to things that are urgent, assuming that they are also important. Often the urgency of these matters is based on the expectations of others.

Effective people stay out of quadrants III and IV because, urgent or not, they are not important. They also shrink quadrant I down to size by spending more time in quadrant II, which is the heart of effective personal management. Our effectiveness takes a quantum leap when we start doing the things in quadrant II on a regular basis.

Finding time for everything simply means managing time effectively and spending it on the right things. The secret lies in finding the balance between the urgent and the important.

Urgent things have the same effect on us as a phone ringing. Urgent matters are usually visible, they press on us and demand attention. Often they are easy, pleasant and fun to do – but often they are so unimportant. Importance, on the other hand has to do with results.

If something is important, it contributes to your mission, your values, your high priority goals.

We react to urgent matters. Important matters that are not urgent require more initiative, to be more proactive. We must act to seize the opportunity, to make things happen.

How effective you are depends on which quadrant of the Time Management Matrix you spend most of your time.

Thank you to: Franklin Covey

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For more information read Stephen R  Covey’s Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.

Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
Chapter 5
p.2
What is the “7 Habits of Highly Effective people”, I often hear people referring to it? Can you tell me what it is all about? Can I apply these habits and concepts in business?
By following the ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective people’, you can enhance your performance in all aspects of life and will definitely contribute to greater success in business.
It is all about creating a Win-Win mind set and way of life. The diagram below will explain the following aspects:
What the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people entail.
The core principles underlying each of the seven habits.
The relationship between the seven habits and the dependency continuum.
Thank you to:
Franklin Covey for
“The 7 Habits of
Highly Effective People”.
First principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
1.
Core principle:
Be pro-active, by applying self-knowledge and self-awareness in order to be able to choose your response.
Second principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
2.
Core principle:
Self-awareness, personal vision and responsibility. Begin with the end in mind, by applying imagination and conscience.
Third principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
3.
Core principle:
Leadership and having a mission.
Put first things first by applying will-power.
Fourth principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
4.
Core principle:
Managing time and priorities around roles and goals. Think Win-Win by adopting an abundance mentality.
Fifth principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
5.
Core principle:
Seeking mutual benefit.Seek first to understand, then to be understood by applying courage balanced by consideration.
Sixth principle of the 7 Habit of Highly Effective people
6.
Core principle:
Empathetic communication. “Sharpen the saw” through continuous improvement of
Self-renewal.
Seventh principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Sffective people
7.
Core principle:
Continuous involvement.
Interdependence – ‘WE’ paradigm:
We can do it.
We can co-operate.
We can combine our talents and abilities and create something greater together.
Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success. As an interdependent person, I have the opportunity to share myself and meaningfully with others, and have access to the vast resources and potential of other human beings.
Independence – ‘I’ paradigm:
I can do it.
I am responsible.
I am self reliant.
I can choose.
Independent people will strive to get what they want through their own efforts.
Dependence – ‘YOU’ paradigm: You take care of me.
You come through for me.
I blame you for the results.
Dependent people need others to get what they want.
How do I go about growing interdependence?
Growing interdependence depends upon building trust in relationships. Think of building trust as making deposits into an Emotional Bank Account.
The more deposits you make, the more reserves you accumulate.
Good awareness
The Emotional Bank Account:
Keeping commitments
Keeping a commitment or a promise is a major deposit, breaking one is a major withdrawal.
Understanding the individual
Really seeking to understand another person is probably one of the most important deposits we can make, and it is the key to every other deposit.
Attending to the little things
The little kindnesses and courtesies are very important. Small discourtesies, a little unkindness, little forms of disrespect make large withdrawals. In relationships, the little things are the big things.
Apologizing sincerely when we make a withdrawal
When we make withdrawals from the emotional bank account, we need to apologize and we need to do it sincerely. Great deposits come in the sincere words:
“I was wrong.”
“That was unkind of me.”
“I showed you no respect.”
“I gave you no dignity, and I’m deeply sorry.”
It takes a great deal of character and strength to apologize quickly out of one’s heart rather than out of pity.
When we truly love others without condition, without strings, we help them feel secure and safe and validated and affirmed in essential worth, identity, and integrity. Their natural growth process is encouraged. We make it easier for them to live the laws of life – co-operation, contribution, self-discipline, integrity and to discover and live true to the highest and best within them.
“If I have a habit of showing discourtesy, disrespect, cutting you off, overreacting, ignoring you, becoming arbitrary, betraying your trust, threatening you, or playing little tin god in your life, my Emotional Bank Account will eventually be overdrawn.
The trust level will become very low. What flexibility do I then have?”

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7 habit of highly effective people

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What are the seven habits of highly effective people, I often hear people referring to it? Can you tell me what it is all about? Can I apply these 7 habits and concepts in business?

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Answer

By following Covey’s 7 habits, you can enhance your performance in all aspects of life and will definitely contribute to greater success in business.

Steven Covey Core Principles

First principle of the 7 habits

Second principle of the seven habits

  • Self-awareness, personal vision and responsibility. Start with the end in mind, by applying your imagination and conscience. (see: goal setting smart)

Third principle of Covey’s habits

Fourth principle of Stephen Covey’s habits

  • Managing time and priorities around roles and goals. Think Win-Win by adopting an abundance mentality. (see: long term career goals) HERE

Fifth principle of the 7 good habits

Sixth principle of the seven habits

Seventh principle of the seven habits of highly effective people

  • Continuous involvement.

It is all about creating a Win-Win situation as a way of life.

The diagram below will explain the following aspects:

  • What the seven habits of highly effective people entail.
  • The core principles underlying each of the seven habits.
  • The relationship between the 7 habits and the dependency relationship.
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Thank you to: Stephen R  Covey for The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

Interdependence – ‘WE’ paradigm

  • We can do it.
  • We can co-operate.
  • We can combine our talents and abilities and create something greater together.

Interdependent people combine their efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success. As an interdependent person, I have the opportunity to share myself meaningfully with others, and have access to the vast resources and potential of other human beings.

Independence – ‘I’ paradigm

  • I can do it.
  • I am responsible.
  • I am self reliant.
  • I can choose.

Independent people will strive to get what they want through their own efforts.

Dependence – ‘YOU’ paradigm

  • You take care of me.
  • You come through for me.
  • I blame you for the results.

Dependent people need others to get what they want.

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How do I go about growing interdependence?

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Answer

Growing interdependence depends upon building trust in relationships. Think of building trust as making deposits into an Emotional Bank Account (explained below).

The more deposits you make, the more reserves you accumulate.

Good awareness

The Emotional Bank Account

Keeping commitments

Keeping a commitment or a promise is a major deposit, breaking one is a major withdrawal.

Understanding the individual

Really seeking to understand another person is probably one of the most important deposits we can make, and it is the key to every other deposit.

Attending to the little things

The little kindnesses and courtesies are very important. Small discourtesies, a little unkindness, little forms of disrespect make large withdrawals. In relationships, the little things are the big things.

Apologizing sincerely when we make a withdrawal

When we make withdrawals from the emotional bank account, we need to apologize and we need to do it sincerely. Great deposits come from the sincere words:

“I was wrong”

“That was unkind of me”

“I didn’t show you respect”

“I gave you no dignity, and I’m deeply sorry”

It takes a great deal of character and strength to apologize sincerely.

When we truly love others without condition, without strings; we help them feel secure, safe, validated and affirmed in their essential worth, identity and integrity. Their natural growth process is encouraged. We make it easier for them to follow the laws of life: co-operation, contribution, self-discipline and integrity. Love encourages to discover and live true to your highest and best.

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Advise

If I have a habit of showing discourtesy, disrespect, cutting you off, overreacting, ignoring you, becoming arbitrary, betraying your trust, threatening you, or playing little tin god in your life,  my Emotional Bank Account will eventually be overdrawn.

The trust level will become very low. What flexibility do I then have?

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7 habit of highly effective people

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