We are often frustrated by stupid politics in the workplace. Do you feel like people are backstabbing you and making up all kinds of stories to hurt your reputation? Are the people you work with frustrating the hell out of you? Let master career coach, Unre Visagie guide you through dealing with this unpleasant situation in this coaching video…
Slide 1 (People around here frustrate me)
Careerdevelopmentplan.net offers the foolproof Career Maker System. Today we specifically talk about how people in my workplace and other places could frustrate me from time to time. In our businesses over the years, coaching, pro bono work at schools and universities, we have found that sometimes people do grind against each other and frustrate each other. How do you use this frustration to your benefit and influence your career decisions positively?
We believe turning frustration into career growth can be an exciting experience. People making career changes using the Career Maker System often got 30% and more increases within 18 months. They took the energy that’s gone into nurturing the frustration and they turned it around to work for them with less effort and a lot more fun. It creates a secure, safe and certain way to change towards your ideal career, and ensure that you earn what you want and what you deserve in the company, the job, the industry of your choice in midlife or after. We hope you enjoy the process and the details we offer you on the website.
Slide 2 (We all work, invest and benefit together)
People often have the awareness that people have is of they, others, that frustrate me. It creates a feeling that the others must change before I can be ok. In this model we turn it around; we let you use the opportunities where you work with others, even in frustration. So you can communicate what you do what you understand, your value, and you then move towards more valuable work for the company and for you. You will see how you grow, by getting rid of the frustrations and turning it into your benefit.
The solution for turning frustration into benefit: know what you currently do for whom, what you are committed to do, what’s part of your job to do and what you can expand to do, there’s a whole lot of opportunities. Prepare this communication with people around you, people you can trust and with whom you are comfortable. With your prepared communication engage anybody where you can deliver value, and especially those that in the past used to frustrate you in your interactions.
Slide 3 (Why would your employer want you to earn more)
Why would your employer be very keen for you to do this and pay you more? Yes, they do want to pay you more, but only if you do much more. That’s the way we’ve all earned more in our lives. In any business there’s shareholders that wants more returns, and if they get more, we get more capital to play with, it’s very simple. It’s easier for the board and the executive management to manage if we make an input strategically, if we add value, they can do more, and we all grow faster.
You personally grow faster, if you have an interest in the business and the industry, an interest in your teams, an interest to contribute, you will really make a big difference and be a cogwheel in the big engine of business that drives the whole thing. When one is frustrated, you so often slow down the whole machine, and then they are obviously going to pay you less. If you speed up the whole machine they are going to pay you more. How do you do that? Understand your role, understand where you fit, find the best fit for you and always keep the client in mind. At the end of the day, the people we deliver the service to finally must come shopping. They pay for what they buy from us. If we can produce better at a lower cost, it works for management, it works for the shareholders, and it obviously then works for us. It’s very important to understand your role as a cogwheel in the big business so we can all grow. There’s much more on this on the website.
We find that many people just look for a job and in a job you get easily frustrated, whereas if you go to work for the company, you go to produce, you go to add value to clients, stakeholders, everywhere around you, everybody loves you and the frustration often just vanish and you will get that fantastic increase, as I hope you will get. The challenge then is to move from the perceived boxes where they frustrate me, where the company decides etc. It’s like a glass plate, you can see on the other side but you can’t touch it. We want to break that glass plate, to think outside the box and move to the great space, where your earnings grow and you get the job you really want and build the career you really want.
Slide 4 (Know what you currently do for whom)
When we all work, invest and benefit together we don’t need permission to do that. We can simply go and do it following these techniques: know what you currently do for whom. On the website I give you a note to show you the value of what you do, the understanding, the insight, you discuss it with people close to you and you ask what more can I do, what else can I do? What must I delegate, what must I do less of? Jack Welsh from GE said NO is the most profitable word in business. NO is also the most profitable word in your career and your job, provided you know what you do, people around you know what you do, you can easily say no and choose what else to do to grow yourself.
Slide 5 (Prepare to communicate to influencers)
From thinking outside the box to the great space, the second step is to prepare to communicate with the people you want to work with, that you need to work with. People must know what you do so they can pay you properly, they can’t pay you properly if they don’t know, so you must prepare so you can communicate. You can’t go and ask them, you have to go to them with solutions, you must have already tested it and be prepared, have your story prepared. You will see elsewhere on the website there’s much more on stories. Your story must be clear.
Here are some selected notes to get you going. Discuss with selected friends, family and colleagues. Prepare and get more information, do some research; ask people who do a similar job in another company, etc. Join associations; join magazines en ezines etc. In this way you become part of the company and part of the industry. Practice those communications so you are prepared for the third step.
Slide 6 (Engage and communicate your work list)
Now you engage the people that can make a difference around you, people that you can delegate to, people that you can get work from and people that need to know to pay you properly. In this process frustrations just go away because you are a task-driven person, you are clear, and when somebody frustrates you, you can simply ask them: “What are we achieving here?” “Let’s rather go for the results so we can earn more money.” You ask and you share, you need good questioning skills that you can find on the website. Respect and acknowledgement will get you a long way. If you go to people around you, below, next to you or above you, you find something you can say to: “Wow, this is great!” They immediately feel bigger. They will immediately want to be with you and frustrations just disappear.
Slide 7 (FEAR & FAIL & RISK)
Let’s look at moving from where people frustrate you to turning that energy into great production, instead of turning it into a negative situation. We all fear, and fear just stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. Fail stands for First Attempt in Learning. If you look back at your life, you learnt to walk and talk, you learnt to tie your shoes, you learnt to ride a bicycle; anything included some failure and some skin. But we got back on the bicycle, it wasn’t a big deal, but when it gets to people, we are scared what they will think. This process will let you practice so you recognize the false evidence and it goes away, the fear of failure goes away, and you start moving forward. The process, to remind you: know what you do, prepare and engage.
You have a fantastic store of assets, everybody has. People have experiences, expertise, interests, aptitudes and relationships that they never articulate, they never unpack it. Talk to people around you, they can see what you can’t see yourself. During my life when I was building businesses, recruiting people, coaching people and doing pro bono work in schools, I haven’t even found a professor that can do his own list. Talk to others around you, if you experience difficulties, come to the website and ask us questions, we can help you. You will see that the resources, whatever resources you may need, are already out there. Your challenge is to bring those resources inside as you climb up the staircase and make your own staircase. Climbing and making a staircase at the same time could be challenging, that is why we have created this safe process from our experience over the years with our friends and professors.
To start: explore and identify. Prepare, engage, and in the process you grow and clarify your store, and you are clearer on what you say yes and no to. Remember no is the most profitable word ever. In this process you are guided to align the job, company and industry that you want to work in. You want to play in the middle, growing your job and growing your company as part of a growth industry. Secondly, you want to make sure that your job aligns with the work you want to do and the work with the job and both of those helps you grow your career long term. You focus in the middle with your asset list and grow. You end up being completely in charge of your future. You don’t have to ask, because you already know what others think and value. Your career aims are aligned with your work, job, company and industry. This insight and knowledge gives you confidence and it puts you in absolute charge.
Slide 8 (Start with the purpose)
We follow a process that let you clarify your purpose in your career. From purpose you can go to objectives and tasks, and dynamically align with your mission and vision. This is a very dynamic change, industry change, company change, your needs change, especially in midlife when you get impatient quicker, you don’t suffer fools so easily anymore. In that process, the more clarity you have, the more people want to be around you. It’s a lot of fun when there is clarity in communication around you.
Slide 9 (Earn more now thinking discussion)
Another model you will learn about in the process is to clearly understand the company’s rules, every way, strategy, focus, clients, what excites them etc. The rules are known and they can’t be changed easily, obey the rules while you work to change them. This is the space you want to spend more time in, provided you don’t waste time on being frustrated about the rules, because often that causes the frustration. Understand and accept the rules, then you can play in understanding and testing for outcomes: the best outcomes for you, the best outcomes for all the stakeholders as we have mentioned in the business model and especially the best outcome for the client.
When you focus on the client nobody can differ from you, because he’s the client, he comes shopping, he’s the only one that pays. You are also going to move in an area where it’s unknown to you but you have influence, then you go and explore. That is why you get more information, talk to more people. This is what all these models help you grow in inter and intra, with clear aims for the next phase of your career after midlife. It is so easy to not do this and get stuck in midlife with growing frustrations. Remember we want to turn frustrations into benefits.
Slide 10 (Approach people for input and advice. You gain awareness)
Approach people for input and advice and you will gain awareness. A brief review, how would you do this? Your approach should be: I admire something about you. There’s always something you can find, just look past the very frustrating interface, you will find something nice, even if you just thank him for frustrating you in the extreme. We had cases like that, where Nadine was very angry at some people, she thanked them for the opportunity to grow with them, they then turned around and gave her such valuable stuff that her salary increased over 20% in six months. They pointed out what she does that is valuable that she didn’t even know. Communicating that to the right people resulted in her getting a tremendous increase six months later. Recently, during a time when the company gave no increases, they realized they had to compete for her in the industry and she still got her increase.
Turning frustrations into benefits work, if you want to see Nadine’s story, it is on our sister website: ebio. You can just click on Nadine. You have to have serious questioning skills where you ask what else? What more? So you can explore. Your questions can be specific or your questions can be what do you think? There are closed questions and open questions. It’s all on the website and it’s all easy to use. Who else can you recommend I talk to? It’s amazing who people will introduce you to if you just ask. That is an easy way to turn your frustrations into benefits. Closed questions have to be specific. Exploratory questions consist of what else, who else, where else and so forth. There is much more about that on the website. Some of the processes on the web fit exactly what we have given you here. Look at the model SMARTM: Specific, Measurable, Accountable, Reward and Resource, Timing, Monitor, how do you do this? In any work environment all this can be obtained by giving other people benefit or opting them to help you. The processes are on the website.
Careerdevelopmentplan.net website
Let’s look at Planning and Performance. All of the resources are listed here that help you with goal setting, planning and communicating. It is grouped into an easy source for you to navigate.
Resource website
The resource website has a whole lot more resources. There are career success processes, understanding, business processes, career change, development plan; all of these are applicable to midlife career growth and change. A whole number of them, like the interpersonal skills, can turn frustrations into big benefits.
Slide 11 (Supporting the foolproof Career Maker System)
We have the business tool-set and the personal tool set that you’ve just seen on the website. Watch out for your next Career Maker System email!
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How To Find (or move to) The Job You Love
by Unre Visagie
Stuggling to find the job you love?
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Let master career coach, Unre Visagie, show you in the free coaching video how to go about finding the job of your dreams. He explains the process using simple steps and methods anybody can use right now to find that dream job! Just hit the play button.
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How to find the job that you love, and that you love to do every day, or how to move to the job you like, which is more often the case and the better option. The issue is to have fun and to earn significantly more money. What typically happens to people is that there are perceptions, the perceptions are almost like cages or boxes or prisons. The key to get from here to the big smiley face on the other side is with you. You have the key. The key to getting the right job that will lead to success lies with you only. You have to open the door and move.
That move could be very scary because we have these perceptions. For example fear, fear represents False Evidence Appearing Real. You can’t fail, because as you move, as you look, as you change, fail represents the First Attempt in Learning. You have to push the boundaries so you can move. Each of us must move by pushing our boundaries and overcoming the fear of failure. If we get rid of these perceptions in some way, we can get from here to the successful man. The first thing, if you want to find the ideal job, is to answer the question: what is the ideal job?
We have to answer the question who are you? If I ask you who you are, can you answer me in a few minutes? I have found that very few people can. We have built multimillion dollar companies where I was responsible for culture and hire, and it’s very unsettling to see how many people do not really know where they want to go, they just want a job, they have to earn money. One can understand that, and that’s where the prison comes from. Let’s look at telling your stories clearly. What are your assets in work? What are your assets in life? How much would you really like to earn? What are you prepared to do to get to have fun in work, life and earnings? If we look at your assets, what are they now? On the website, careerdevelopmentplan.net you can find a whole range of things you can do to help you unpack your assets right now. These are related to your experience, relationships, aptitude and they tell powerful stories about who you are. We are still a people that communicate best and hear best with powerful stories.
The key thing here is, to find the job that you really like, what must you add? What must you do more of and what must you do less of? What are you going to say no to and what are you going to say yes to? If you don’t know, nobody will know. Fortunately it’s practical to know. To recap, very few people realize what their life income will be. If you look at your life income over a lifetime, it is really worth managing. It is worth managing as if it is a project, as if it is a business plan. It could be millions, and any project where you even spend $100 000, will be managed with a project plan and a full business plan. Returns on investment, what the outcomes must be, and what does success look like? Why not do the same for your career? Life income is on the website, and it’s interesting to look at the number of dollars, to get awareness, and think about how to manage it.
Secondly, we like to look at all the areas of life. We’re just concentrating on work and career today. On the website, careerdevelopmentplan.net, there is a quick check for areas of your life, are they balanced? What are you prepared to risk? What are you prepared to invest to get to the smiley man? If you look at work, it always starts with the work you do, the job you want, because the work defines the job you do and you will have a number of jobs. The job you do defines your career. You have to choose which industry and which company will be the best for you. If you follow this approach you have a choice. Everybody has a choice, but while we perceive boxes and we are scared, we have fear, we are worried about failure, we cannot move and we just work for money, which I find to be a very sad situation. I am privileged that I have been able to do what I choose to do for over 20 years now. I do work 80 hours a week, but it’s because I choose to do it.
We have done this work pro bono at schools, at universities and in our own companies and at probably one of the most successful incubators ever built. That is where we packaged it, in incubators.
Let’s look at your purpose. Your purpose must relate to who you are. You must unpack who you are to get your purpose clear. This must be so clear that a so-called elevator speech must be practical for you. You must be able to tell somebody your purpose in a few sentences, your purpose in your career, your work, and your future. Your purpose is formed by the current goals you have and the goals are informed by your tasks. The objective here is to get the work that you choose, to which you say yes and to what you will say no. If you are clear about whom you are and where you are going, yes and no become very easy. If you don’t know, it’s impossible. Aligning your tasks with your vision and mission, the goals with your vision and mission, your vision and mission will be dynamic, it will keep on changing. It’s very natural for people to change as we get new information. You must realize that this vision and mission will keep changing. Then you want to aim for who you want to become, your new aim clearly communicated with powerful stories.
Let’s look at how to do it. It’s a simple three step process. It’s like building your own staircase while you climb it, which is why you’ve got to have a system and clarity. All of these tools are given for free on careerdevelopmentplan.net and we offer professional services on top of that, but it’s all free if you do it as we recommend here.
External to you are all the resources you may ever need. You must know what you need, and how to ask for it. The process is right there on the web. The first step is know your assets, what is internal to you, the value that you can bring to a company, workplace, clients, people around you, social, financial, etc. You can simply come out and explore and get new information. It is all here, and the process to ask is simply to go and say thank you to people. Ask them clearly, could they tell you about the things you want to know? Use the normal open and closed questions; this is also available on the website. You explore, you get the information, you internalize the information and you start moving.
Step two you prepare. With preparing you go outside, you talk to groups that you select, family members, people that you have identified in the industries and companies you are interested in. Join associations, join magazines, there are so many ways that you can get information, so many ways that you can prepare. Once you are prepared it’s easy to engage. A man with a plan is never refused. While a man who asks for help, nobody knows how to help him because what exactly do you need? What do you want? Why do you want it? How can I do it? It must be clear, specific, measurable, accountable, rewards, resources, and timing, with a deadline that can be monitored. It is just like a project plan.
Once you have engaged, you are really moving. Now you can move to the work you want, becoming the person you want to become, full of life, and your work and career will become very clear. From this you will develop goals, from goals tasks. You will check dynamically that this is in line with your vision and mission, which we like to call your beacon. The beacon you aim for. When you’ve planted your beacon you can tell anybody who you are, you can tell them what you want and why, and you can tell them how you are going to about it. So many people in our coaching program, in our companies and in our pro bono work were amazed at the number of choices they had. They only became aware of it during the process, because they were stuck in a cage, box, prison and they didn’t use their key to move. Once you move the choices become visible, if you don’t move it’s hard to find the choices. People can’t bring it to you, you must do your exploration, do your preparation, do your engagement. To do this there are many tools that you may need: communication skills, vocational skills, how to acquire these skills are all on the website or please ask us.
Careerdevelopmentplan.net has an aim, which is my passion that many more people will experience the joy that I’ve lived with for over 20 years. I’ve shares this with many people in my companies, in my coaching and in my pro bono work at universities, communities and schools. A lot of it is on the website and we will keep on telling the stories. I hope you will join us to move from who am I? To this is what I want to become, this is me, this is what I’m adding, this is my purpose that is dynamically aligned and I’m continuously moving resources from external to internal.
People who’ve done this with us typically grew their salaries with a minimum of 30% in 18 months. Some of our top people, earning towards 200 000 plus dollars, still keep on increasing their salaries by more than 30%. They are secure and safe in their jobs because people love a man with a plan. Even during this recession our top people still got towards 30% increases when most people in the company didn’t. The key model is you have to understand the value you add, how you add it, why you add it and to show your passion and enthusiasm. This can only be sustained if you are clear about who you are and where you are going.
I hope we have given you an introduction, how to find or move to the job you love, going to work for fun every day and earning lots more money. That is the invitation, I hope you join us on this journey and please use the website freely and ask questions freely. We would appreciate it. Thank you very much.