7 Habits of Highly Effective People

by Unre Visagie

Chapter 5
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What is the “7 Habits of Highly Effective people”, I often hear people referring to it? Can you tell me what it is all about? Can I apply these habits and concepts in business?
By following the ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective people’, you can enhance your performance in all aspects of life and will definitely contribute to greater success in business.
It is all about creating a Win-Win mind set and way of life. The diagram below will explain the following aspects:
The core principles underlying each of the seven habits.
The relationship between the seven habits and the dependency continuum.
Thank you to:
Franklin Covey for
“The 7 Habits of
Highly Effective People”.
1.
Core principle:
Be pro-active, by applying self-knowledge and self-awareness in order to be able to choose your response.
Second principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
2.
Core principle:
Self-awareness, personal vision and responsibility. Begin with the end in mind, by applying imagination and conscience.
3.
Core principle:
Leadership and having a mission.
Put first things first by applying will-power.
Fourth principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
4.
Core principle:
Managing time and priorities around roles and goals. Think Win-Win by adopting an abundance mentality.
5.
Core principle:
Seeking mutual benefit.Seek first to understand, then to be understood by applying courage balanced by consideration.
Sixth principle of the 7 Habit of Highly Effective people
6.
Core principle:
Empathetic communication. “Sharpen the saw” through continuous improvement of
Self-renewal.
Seventh principle of the 7 Habits of Highly Sffective people
7.
Core principle:
Continuous involvement.
Interdependence – ‘WE’ paradigm:
We can do it.
We can co-operate.
We can combine our talents and abilities and create something greater together.
Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success. As an interdependent person, I have the opportunity to share myself and meaningfully with others, and have access to the vast resources and potential of other human beings.
Independence – ‘I’ paradigm:
I can do it.
I am responsible.
I am self reliant.
I can choose.
Independent people will strive to get what they want through their own efforts.
Dependence – ‘YOU’ paradigm: You take care of me.
You come through for me.
I blame you for the results.
Dependent people need others to get what they want.
How do I go about growing interdependence?
Growing interdependence depends upon building trust in relationships. Think of building trust as making deposits into an Emotional Bank Account.
The more deposits you make, the more reserves you accumulate.
Good awareness
The Emotional Bank Account:
Keeping commitments
Keeping a commitment or a promise is a major deposit, breaking one is a major withdrawal.
Understanding the individual
Really seeking to understand another person is probably one of the most important deposits we can make, and it is the key to every other deposit.
Attending to the little things
The little kindnesses and courtesies are very important. Small discourtesies, a little unkindness, little forms of disrespect make large withdrawals. In relationships, the little things are the big things.
Apologizing sincerely when we make a withdrawal
When we make withdrawals from the emotional bank account, we need to apologize and we need to do it sincerely. Great deposits come in the sincere words:
“I was wrong.”
“That was unkind of me.”
“I showed you no respect.”
“I gave you no dignity, and I’m deeply sorry.”
It takes a great deal of character and strength to apologize quickly out of one’s heart rather than out of pity.
When we truly love others without condition, without strings, we help them feel secure and safe and validated and affirmed in essential worth, identity, and integrity. Their natural growth process is encouraged. We make it easier for them to live the laws of life – co-operation, contribution, self-discipline, integrity and to discover and live true to the highest and best within them.
“If I have a habit of showing discourtesy, disrespect, cutting you off, overreacting, ignoring you, becoming arbitrary, betraying your trust, threatening you, or playing little tin god in your life, my Emotional Bank Account will eventually be overdrawn.
The trust level will become very low. What flexibility do I then have?”

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Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective people

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The 7 habits of highly effective people discussed in question and answer style.

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What are the seven habits of highly effective people, I often hear people referring to it? Can you tell me what it is all about? Can I apply these 7 habits and concepts in business?

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Answer

By following Covey’s 7 habits, you can enhance your performance in all aspects of life and will definitely contribute to greater success in business.

Steven Covey Core Principles

First principle of the 7 habits

Second principle of the seven habits

  • Self-awareness, personal vision and responsibility. Start with the end in mind, by applying your imagination and conscience. (see: goal setting smart)

Third principle of Covey’s habits

Fourth principle of Stephen Covey’s habits

  • Managing time and priorities around roles and goals. Think Win-Win by adopting an abundance mentality. (see: long term career goals) HERE

Fifth principle of the 7 good habits

Sixth principle of the seven habits

Seventh principle of the seven habits of highly effective people

  • Continuous involvement.

It is all about creating a Win-Win situation as a way of life.

The diagram below will explain the following aspects:

  • What the seven habits of highly effective people entail.
  • The core principles underlying each of the seven habits.
  • The relationship between the 7 habits and the dependency relationship.

Thank you to: Stephen R  Covey for The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

Interdependence – ‘WE’ paradigm

  • We can do it.
  • We can co-operate.
  • We can combine our talents and abilities and create something greater together.

Interdependent people combine their efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success. As an interdependent person, I have the opportunity to share myself meaningfully with others, and have access to the vast resources and potential of other human beings.

Independence – ‘I’ paradigm

  • I can do it.
  • I am responsible.
  • I am self reliant.
  • I can choose.

Independent people will strive to get what they want through their own efforts.

Dependence – ‘YOU’ paradigm

  • You take care of me.
  • You come through for me.
  • I blame you for the results.

Dependent people need others to get what they want.

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How do I go about growing interdependence?

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Answer

Growing interdependence depends upon building trust in relationships. Think of building trust as making deposits into an Emotional Bank Account (explained below).

The more deposits you make, the more reserves you accumulate.

Good awareness

The Emotional Bank Account

Keeping commitments

Keeping a commitment or a promise is a major deposit, breaking one is a major withdrawal.

Understanding the individual

Really seeking to understand another person is probably one of the most important deposits we can make, and it is the key to every other deposit.

Attending to the little things

The little kindnesses and courtesies are very important. Small discourtesies, a little unkindness, little forms of disrespect make large withdrawals. In relationships, the little things are the big things.

Apologizing sincerely when we make a withdrawal

When we make withdrawals from the emotional bank account, we need to apologize and we need to do it sincerely. Great deposits come from the sincere words:

“I was wrong”

“That was unkind of me”

“I didn’t show you respect”

“I gave you no dignity, and I’m deeply sorry”

It takes a great deal of character and strength to apologize sincerely.

When we truly love others without condition, without strings; we help them feel secure, safe, validated and affirmed in their essential worth, identity and integrity. Their natural growth process is encouraged. We make it easier for them to follow the laws of life: co-operation, contribution, self-discipline and integrity. Love encourages to discover and live true to your highest and best.

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If I have a habit of showing discourtesy, disrespect, cutting you off, overreacting, ignoring you, becoming arbitrary, betraying your trust, threatening you, or playing little tin god in your life,  my Emotional Bank Account will eventually be overdrawn.

The trust level will become very low. What flexibility do I then have?

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Unre Visagie June 29, 2011 at 5:54 pm

Make the book a habit in your company.
We provide the book summary and the book to each team.
When situations arise we work them through the seven habits.
Later on they do it naturally as part of their work habits.It creates effective people, effective teams and successful people and teams.
We build more than 30 companies with a total of over 1500 people this way.
It is practical to ask one person on the team to be responsible and see that the habits are acquired as habits.
It forms part of the natural way of learning newor expanded habits.
We learned the processes from Hewlett Packard in the late 1970′s and then applied it in all our companies.
We summarized the useful tools we found and published it in a Company book.
Happy to help you do the same in your place of work or company. Click on subcribe and ask us how! Thanks

ERNEST October 9, 2012 at 7:13 am

I like seven habits of highly successful people and i have read about interdepedence, independence and dependence they are good staff i think if all at the program can learn this staff we can go far i am very much happy . Keeping commitment or promise is a major deposit , breaking one is a major withdrawal. understanding the individual attending to the little things and apologizing sincerely when we make a withdrawal .U CAN USE THIS IN YOUR DAILY LIFE IT CAN HELP .

Unre Visagie October 9, 2012 at 6:50 pm

Thanks Ernest!
Many discussions are sometimes not promises for example:
1. When we get new investors for an opportunity we will do certain investments. then people just hear we will make investments – they do not hear if and when the money comes. We go work to find the money. It is not in our direct control!
2. When we commit to promote (Sell) the product, service or program it does not always generate money from the investors. Then there is no pay or commission. We risked together, learn together and try again! It is not in our direct control.
3. We make plans and then the plans do not quite work out – was the plan a promise? Only when people hear only one side!

Unre Visagie Master Career and business coach!

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